How do you cope with a possible breakup?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend said today that he doesn't know if he wants to still be with me and it hurts so fucking much. I don't know what to do. I feel so lost.

I don't know who I am without him. We've been together over a year now and I thought things were okay.

Updates

8 mo

He broke up with me 😢

[Bklynbadboy12]

It's really a scary thing when you say you don't know who you are with out someone being in your life. You should never love anyone so much that you lose you identity if there not with you. I see this post a lot on here. Sometimes change is good. Surround yourself with friends and family and get back into doing the things you love and get back into life. Cause if someone tells you that they don't know if they want to be with you anymore is disrespectful it's like they are saying you not worthy of them and that would piss me off I'd let them go but there will be no coming back cause I deserve better and you deserve better. I'm not waiting around until you decide what you want and you shouldn't either

[Bklynbadboy12]

Thanks for the MHO

[melnc]

As long he hesitates and is unsure about what he wants, it's time to take charge. You also have the right to end the relationship whenever you're not feeling comfortable and unsure. The problem is not with you but with someone lacking clarity. End the drama with an iron fist without any hesitation, don't settle for ambiguity. Show him you are worth more than gold. Trust in your own strength and know that better things are ahead when you've the courage to let go of what no longer completes you.

[melnc]

Sorry for what happened

[Asker]

Thank you.

[DishLady]

"Cope" is not always the perfect word to describe the process. Sometimes you just have to compartmentalize and move on. otherwise the situation cripples other aspects of your life.

[Asker]

Oh ok. Thanks.

[Fireguy17]

just be the one that does the breaking up and you will be just fine in no time.
like pulling off a band aid, just rip it off and you are done and can move on.