How to live with an ex peacefully until your lease ends?

[Anonymous]

Hi

I have broken up with my ex but need to still live here financially until lease ends in 2 months.
He seems to be in a lot of denial about the breakup.. becuase I have been trying to end things for a while now maybe he thinks it is not that serious. It has taken many attempts but I am ready to move on.

I wnat to live peacefully and as much in my own bubble for the next couple of months. He wnats so much unnecessary interaction and emotional intimacy. Even when i am being polite or nice he starts a drama because i am being cold. I am not being cold. I just need distance and space. If we werent living together.. we wouldn't even be speaking right now and id probably need to block him if he wouldn't give me that space. I feel he is taking advantage of the fact we are living together. And not getting the fact I do not want to speak unless its necessary.

I do not know how to make this clear without the environemnt become HOSTILE. I feel he will create an angry and anxious enviornemnt with me if he doesn't get the attention he wants.

[petitedollbabee]

You treat him as a flatmate and nothing more. I’ve been in your situation before. I just treated my ex as a roommate. I’d spend my days doing my own things, not interacting with him unless he interacts with me first, showing no affection or any sort of intimacy, and giving him the bare minimum in conversation. No casual conversation, only talking if he asked me something or if something was necessary to talk about.

[Billlewis]

I went through a similar situation, when my ex girlfriend moved in as a platonic roommate, but then proceeded to have the guy she was dating spend four or five nights a week at our apartment -- for both incredible sex and the irresistible opportunity to drive me nuts night after night after night.

[melnc]

Are you financially able to move to another place before the end of the lease?

[Anonymous]

He's hurt and probably lonely. Don't start dating until you move out and just be friendly to him.