Is it fair to expect my ex to keep paying rent until I find a new roommate?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend and I broke up a week ago and I told him to move his stuff into the spare room and stay there until he finds a new place (apartment is in my name), and I came back home from work and he's moved out, texted me he's gone back to his parents house until he finds his own place because he can't stand to see me, and this has screwed me over big time because I Can't afford the rent on my own and I told him he'd have to help me with rent until I get a new roommate and he says that's my problem not his, yeah he broke up with me over something that shouldn't have been a break up but I still feel like a decent person would help pay especially as he pays no rent at his parents so he could afford it, am I being unreasonable?

Updates

+1 y

Okay people keep asking why we broke up, I got drunk and gave another guy head at a party I went to while he was out of town but I confessed to him almost as soon as he got back and apologized over and over but he wouldn’t accept it

[CuriousJC]

Well then I can agree with him. You messed up big-time, because you're not supposed to be giving anybody a bJ unless it's your boyfriend only. I am in a relationship with someone you belong to that person and he belongs to you. Regardless if you're drunk or hi or something like that you never cross the line with your boyfriend with another guy or girl. So I can synthesize why he moved out. Because you broke his Trust. But as for paying rent as roommates, I used to have a few roommates before. I came up with suggestion that the three of us would pay rent simultaneously. Meaning each of us will pay the the rent on each month. Meaning I would pay June rent, someone else will pay the rent for July, and the other would pay the rent for August. And we would go back and forth each month. I eventually had to move out because they kept laughing their music so loud that I could sleep in every time I turn it down to tell me not to touch their stuff and I couldn't take it anymore. It's hard to sleep when the music is blasting from the room across you.

[Shizunk]

So in this situation I would also break up with you and I would still help with the rent for a short while. However since he is not there, it is hard to demand that if he refuses. The reason I would feel the need to pay is that generally in the contract there tends to be a clause requiring you to announce in advance before you are actually able to leave and stop paying. I am used to that and to the fact that the reason for moving elsewhere doesn't matter, even if it was your fault. If he has no contract with anyone that makes this voluntary and I kind of get why he would refuse... So, yeah. I would pay personally, but if you pushed the matter hard I would let you know I dont actually owe you anything.
But then I tend to have good relationships with my exes in general, so that helps such matters usually...

[es20490446e]

Pay the rent of a cheater?

All for you.

[Kiss_Me]

@es20490446e Yes, its called character.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

So you sucked another guy's dick and because you said sorry, you think he shouldn't of broke up with you and on top of it, help you pay your rent? Are you kidding here? He did the right thing.. Why don't you ask the guy you gave the blowie to to pay your rent?

[InspecturGajit]

Haha, I had the same response.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@InspecturGajit yeah but I'm thinking this a troll question... I mean really who would think giving someone else a blow job isn't a reason for your partner to break up with you?

[Paris13]

.. Apartment is in your name. No obligation except Coming from his Heart. Sadly YOU--Part... xx

[Paris13]

Thanks to Gag. xx

[YesICan]

."yeah he broke up with me over something that shouldn't have been a break up but I still feel like a decent person would help pay "
."I got drunk and gave another guy head at a party"

Who raised you B?

"and apologized over and over but he wouldn’t accept it"

What is there to accept? You had another pair of nuts smacking the tip of your chin while you was choking on his cock. And you still somehow feel entitled that he should pay rent?

[DonkeyDan]

If his name is on the lease or rent book then yes he should pay until he has it removed. Otherwise he has no obligation to continue paying, what if you don't find another roommate, is he supposed to pay indefinitely? Your bit married and neither of you have any obligation to eachother. The pitfalls of a modern world in affrid. After my wife moved out of our home after the separation, I didn't ask her to pay towards the mortgage until we sold the place, I just took back what she would have owed from the final sale amount. And then the divorce was finalised.

[Diodoro]

This is why we have contracts. Since it was in your name it's legally your responsibility. Very shitty last minute to do. But yea, just sucks.

I could see his position aswell tho. Why pay for a place he has no ownership of and if things are sour between you the last thing he wants to do is a favor for you.

I imagine how the breakup occurred is part of why he left. In his mind he doesn't owe you any favors. In all seriousness you were mad to tell him to move his stuff from your room, pulling the "it's my house" card on it.

He just went right in line with what you did. It's your place. He's gone.

[Diodoro]

But to your main question. No it's not fair to expect that.

[Diodoro]

Lmao

So you cheated. Told him to move his stuff out of your room, pulling the my house card on him. And then you got mad when he just moved out instead

And you're talking about him being a decent person to you

[jshm2]

You've learned a valuable life lesson, kiddo: Never piss on your own house door.

It should have occurred to you from day one when you signed that lease that you needed his rent contribution to live your life, more than he did yours.

It's a common mistake a lot of kids make. Failing to realise that the people you live and work with, often have bigger contributions on your living than you like to think. Everyone likes to think they "don't need anyone" or "have nothing to lose" but it's never the case.

Anyway, dad lesson over. You should first and foremost speak to you landlord to update them. Could be they have another lined up, or will cut you some slack. If nothing, then speak to your family and friends before exploring other avenues.

[Daniela1982]

I don't blame him for dumping you as obviously your relationship meant nothing. If there was no lease signed by him he did not break the lease so he owes you nothing. I mean do you really think he is going to help you after that? I guess you got your rude awakening.

I got out of paying her rent. I love it!

[Sugar100]

Why did u end up living with boyfriend in first place? Y u can’t live alone n just see boyfriend weekly? Now u have this issue. I have a boyfriend but we don’t live together. Maybe living alone and just having boyfriend visit can help u from a lot of problems. Next time try live alone and live with boyfriend until you marry. I’m sure u are old enough to take care of yourself you don’t need boyfriend 24/7 with u. Now u r broken up and struggling with rent.

[demonics]

You sound like that chick who thinks ex boyfriends should still support her lifestyle until she gets a new dude... The level of 2021 is reaching disgusting levels...

https://www.youtube.com/embed/1lAYdg9Xwc8

[Shizunk]

I dont think this is quite comparable with asking to pay for the current month. Buy omg this video... "... he pays the bills on the condition that I dont sleep with anyone else. So I hid the fact that I am in another relashionship for a while..." That fucking bitch. Sometimes I wonder if women regularly admit to murder in public and I never hear about it because nobody even notices when they do. The casual tone there is genuinely scary.

[InspecturGajit]

No, if he doesn't live there he doesn't pay rent. And you cheated on him. He has the moral and more important legal high-ground. Why don't you see if the guy you gave head to will split the rent with you?

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Why would a guy downvote this? Maybe he should pay her rent😂

[David_Kek]

@Brainsbeforebeauty simps will simp

[BrosephBrostar]

"Oops, I accidentally sucked someone else's dick, teehee, now can you pay half my rent for me?"

Nah, King's doing the right thing.

[Diodoro]

#King

[t-8900]

yeah the drunk excuse doesn't work because it's been overused and cliche. If you can't handle your consumption then simply dont drink. As far as him not paying the rent? Maybe there is some legal standing behind it BUT from a moral standing and if you are truly remorseful? Just let it go to be honest. You messed up, you failed him, you destroyed the trust and your image in his eyes. We all make mistakes but it's clear you hurt him badly. You must ultimately decide what to do.

[Diodoro]

There's no legal standing at all. He moved out before the end of the month. Legal standing would be if he moved out after the next month's rent is due what is usually between the 1st and 5th assuming prorated rent which most landlords do.

So he's clear. She's just thinking about October's rent. He paid September.

[Celtero]

Why the hell is that his problem?

And why'd he break up with you anyway? By your entitled attitude I assume you cheated on him or something.

You're the one making unwise financial decisions. You really don't have enough savings to pay for one extra month of rent?

[libsaretards]

Your update shows what a person you are. A decent person does not cheat. He is right to leave you on your ass. He is not living there so he has no obligation to help someone who caused so much pain.

[Chriscunning]

So I think as a 'nice guy' I would offer to at least pay one months rent, despite ending on bad terms. Heck I even bought an ex food because she was struggling.

But i think it goes to show what type of person he is. If the going got tough he probably wouldn't support you much and it's usually in the bad times when it comes out.

Good luck.

[YesICan]

Sir no disrespect, but what you just wrote here is beyond pathetic.

[Chriscunning]

@YesICan Care to elaborate?

[ZackBan]

Sorry to have to tell you but it has nothing to do with decency he doesn't owe you anything and while moving out without warning is a dick move the fact remains it's your place and you two broke up.
Asking for rent money will not work especially since it seems to me you messed up to begin with.
Now I don't know what you want but if you still want him in your life maybe give him a day or 2 and try working out the issue and getting back together

[ohshee]

First of all if his name is on the lease that he's liable for it yes he needs to pay if you broke up with you did he should have left. When he leaves he has to go rent a place anyway right so that's not right for him to be able to stay there for free he needs to pay you need to do what's right he's not always breaking up with you but he's using you at the same time kick his ass out or pay up

[ohshee]

Well I guess lesson learned I mean basically told your boyfriend if this guy was more important the moment you started giving him a head now if you didn't have a boyfriend I would say that is so very hot and sexy but I really can't say anything except for next time you're in a relationship whenever you have the opportunity to do look at it from your boyfriend's point of view I look at it your point of view if your boyfriend was to do the same thing to a girl

[Miristheiss]

If you gave another guy a sexual act then yeah, you should be dumped... he should move out right away if it is your place or he should kick you out ASAP if it is his place. Either way, he should immediately get your whoring, cheating, disgusting ass out of his life regardless of who moves and he shouldn't pay you a penny for anything and he should never have anything to do with you again.

[Dragonpurple]

Fair or not doesn't matter, life isn't fair... despite peoples best attempts to try and make it fair. Yet there is no reason to not ask but at the same time he probably needs to save up for a deposit so he can move out.

A tip on life in general though, if someone else is not legally responsible, usually they will never pay anything.

I'm surprised he even responded to you when you asked, so many will just ghost or block their ex.

[qwert1234]

Do you have a contract that specifically says he needs to contribute until X time? If not, then maybe it's time to find a cheaper place.

I mean, decency or not, why would you expect him to share if he doesn't live there anymore? Where's the logic?

I won't even talk about your update. lol. This only makes things worse - for you.

[DCooper]

Your rent is not your ex's problem. And you have to be retarded if you think sucking some random dude off is anything short of a breakup situation. No dude with a shred of self respect engages in an 'exclusive' relationship with the town bicycle.

[John_Doesnt]

Think about it from his perspective: would you want to financially support someone you don't like and be forced to live with them? He clearly doesn't like you anymore and he wants to be as far away as possible.
Also, he probably likes the idea of not paying rent, so he can save some money for a security deposit. (unless his parents are forcing him to pay rent).
Put yourself in his position and you would do the same thing.