Breaking up over distance?

[Anonymous]

Me and my girlfriend broke up yesterday mostly because of the distance. It’s been 3 months since she moved. We met when she was finishing college off a dating app and I happened to have graduated from the same college last year and I am now a nurse studying pre med. She has plans to take a gap year for to ready herself to be a law school applicant. I am in Florida and she moved back home to Pennsylvania. We had an amazing relationship and I never felt this way about a person and felt at peace. She always told me the same and I felt like with the money I made as a nurse I was able to do things more extravagant for our age. The communication started to decrease right after her birthday which I sent her a lot of presents for through the mail and I sent her things before that. She was working a lot as she didn’t have much money after graduation and would work 6 days a week doing different jobs to save money so she couldn’t really send me much. When the communication started to decrease I would only get a couple of texts here and there and a snap chat and it soon turned Int 6-7 days with spotty communication and I soon asked if she was done because it started to kinda decrease before her birthday. She got defensive and emotional and said she needed to think because I broke her with that text. Days passed and I realized I wasn’t in the wrong and asked her what she really wanted and she sent what It says in the pics below. I know it’s crazy that I only said ok to that but I had nothing. I tried initiating most of the calls, texting, making an effort to visit and she said that. What do you guys think. Her dad also is locked up so she’s been dealing with that too

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang man, that's rough. Long distance is so hard, especially when you're just starting out. It sucks she basically blindsided you by saying she wanted space without much explanation.

From her side, it sounds like a lot has been going on with moving, working a bunch, and dealing with her dad. That kind of stress can really weigh on a person and make it hard to focus on a relationship. Plus, just being apart that long without seeing each other much probably had her feeling disconnected too.

I'd give her the space she asked for now, even though it hurts. Maybe reach out in a few weeks to just see how she's doing in a casual, friendly way without pressing for more commitment. Try to take the pressure off so she knows you're there if she wants to talk. But also start focusing on you too, hang with your boys and keep busy.

If it's meant to be, maybe in a few months when things settle down on her end she'll realize what you guys had and want to try again when the timing is better. But for now there's not much you can do since she said she needs space. Just take it day by day, man. Breakups suck but it sounds like this was more the situation than you yourself. Hang in there - her loss!

[strateguy632]

That won't work

Just break up already.