What signs do girls give when they are unsure about the break up or is it more like she needs space?

[Curious13322]

My girlfriend and broke up yesterday, mutual desicion. Because we are both dealing with mental illness problems.

She have not ask or collected her stuff from my place

Her shoes is still here

Her previous ex wedding rings she left at my place is still here

Her crop top and hairpin is still here

She has not blocked me from social media or WhatsApp

After the break up she posted a Pic of me present in the Pic and posted it on her WhatsApp status

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm that's kinda weird that she left all her stuff at your place if the breakup was really mutual. A few signs it might not be totally over in her mind:

- Leaving her stuff is like half keeping a foot in the door. If she comes to get it later, you guys will have to see each other and talk.

- Leaving sentimental things like her ex's rings could mean part of her isn't fully moved on from the past. Might still have some confusion.

- Posting a pic of your present on social media right after isn't something you usually do if you're totally fine with ending it. Seems like she wants you to see.

- Not blocking you anywhere is a sign she's not closed that chapter completely yet. Wants the option to contact you still.

My guess is she's probably pretty torn up and unsure about fully letting go. The mental health stuff might be part of it too if either of you get emotional ups and downs. I'd say give her some time and space, but don't be shocked if she tries reaching out again soon looking for closure or to revisit things once you're both feeling better. Breakups are rough, and it doesn't sound 100% final to me based on that stuff. Just my two cents!

[Anonymous]

Honestly she may not care about what you do with those items, it’s literally a couple pieces of clothing, easily replaced. Only thing you mentioned that could be of some value is her ring, but since it’s already from an ex she isn’t worried about it. Anyway, it sounds like you two broke up for good reason, mental health is so important and not worth sacrificing. I know you’re hurting, maybe feel regret but try to remember why you two made this decision. Use this time to work on yourself, hopefully she plans on doing the same, then who knows maybe down the road you can work things out.

[DishLady]

1. She asks for space.
2. She suggests the guy take space.
3. She applies for a job/program to keep busy and get loads of space….

[rosemilk]

weird. doesn't sound like a breakup. maybe she think you both will change your mind

[Anonymous]

Just move on already. Sounds like you don't want to break up.

[Curious13322]

No I don't. I really love her and respect her treated her nice. It was all my fault, I overthink a lot during the good times and never enjoyed it, then when she started pulling away I tried to make sense and I started an argument