She even texted me first the next morning saying “I had fun last night, thanks so much for bringing me!” And had been texting me consistently since.
Well, today, 3 days later… she texted me “hey, sorry I’ve been MIA. I thought maybe I was ready, but I’m not and I just want to be straight forward with you… but I did have a great time, thanks so much for it. I just don’t want to waste your time because you did state you were looking for a relationship. It just wouldn’t be fair for me to lead you on. I have had it happen and it sucks.”
The thing is, we had amazing chemistry. I could tell she enjoyed her time (she extended the date!) I think she may be being honest. I texted back this:
“ Hey no worries at all! I appreciate you being upfront and honest. I appreciate your time, and when you find yourself ready, maybe we could try things. That being said, is there maybe something you’d be more open to? For what it’s worth, I’m not the type to either force or rush into anything (quite the opposite) so I’m open to and prefer taking things really slow, and seeing if you’re more comfortable with the idea after some time. I totally understand if you prefer to focus on being a nurse for now though and figuring out your young adult life. Absolutely no hard feelings!”
She’s really an amazing girl! Originally we matched on tinder, I asked her what she was on there for. “Entertainment. After that? Not sure tbh” so everything is really pointing to the fact she may not actually be ready.
I almost always end that statement with “with you” but I’m having a hard time doing that here. What are your thoughts? Thanks!
She was as honest as she could be. She was being real with you about not being ready to let go of the single life and continuing with you would come with the pressure of expecting things to get serious later because that's what you said you're looking for, rather than say "having fun and seeing where things go" which I'm guessing is very much her attitude.
Not to proliferate stereotypes but as a general rule nurses are freaks. Like to party. Like to drink. Want to let go and have a good time. Couple that with leading into fall season. More than likely she's looking to soft boo up.
Nothing super serious right now. My guess. She did like you. She enjoyed the company, the fun, the attention from a quality guy wanting her. But she also wants to have fun and freedom to have fun with whoever else right now.
I don't think you were overbearing but it sounds like at some point there was a clear point of you conveying you want to take her off the market. And she doesn't know you well enough yet. You haven't had sex yet (makes a massive difference) and you're talking about relationships
Not her vibe.