How does break up affect men?

[Anonymous]

My fiancé and I broke up after two years. It has been a really nasty break up. It’s only been a month and half since the break up. We’ve talked a few times but really it’s just been arguments. I recently moved back to my hometown and connected with another ex of mine (he and I were together for 6 years his name is Fred). Fred and I are friends we decided to hang out. When he poured out his heart to me saying I was the one who got away. How he searched for me in all the women he dated. I found this to be crazy because he did exactly what my fiancé did to me. But during our relationship he acted like he didn’t care about me. Or like I wasn’t worthy. He cheated on and put other people before me. 3 years later he’s saying I was the best woman he dated and how he has a void since I’ve been gone. How do men really process break ups because all my exes act like it’s nothing to find another woman. I’m wondering if my ex fiancé feels this way too.

side note my ex fiancé has a restraining order on me but calls me everyday. He’s violating his own restraining order

[Anonymous]

Honestly they want that sex and feel you wanna hear what they are saying!

They miss you but don't want you there! They miss the idea of how you were... Mostly in bed

This other guy might feel that way it was 6 year shit honestly no date wants to hear that. Especially one like you who has another guy doing the same thing pinning for you.

It only really looks romantic in movies and TV for drama.

Just tell your new date it's not marriage serious just trying it and no sex for 6 months. Keep to it and he will probably dump you fast

[Asker]

Well I stop having sex with my ex fiancé at the beginning of this year. We haven’t had sex in 7 months. The ex of 6 years I would never sleep with him again. He has a girlfriend and I told him we are adults we can be friends without sex if its too much for him we can cut contact. I’m not going backwards.

[Asker]

Also my relationship with my ex fiancé wasn’t center on sex. The first man I was with that provided for me without sex. He had family, home etc. I felt like we were married for 20 years lol

[Asker]

He was the first man*

We had a family, home*

[LiamJHayden]

It means I have to go find another girl. Other than that, it doesn't. If she doesn't want to be with me, or vice versa, it would be wrong to try to force it.

[Squatting_Slav]

Apparently men are the most affected, we never forget the women we dated or were with. It depends on the situation and type but we take much longer to recover.

[Sam1133]

Breakup doesn't affect me at all..
Because I don't take holes seriously. 🤌