How do men handle breakups?

[Anonymous]

Why is it that men in my experience seems to handle breakups better? They seem to move on faster or start flirting with girls just right after a breakup. How do men act when they get sad? Personally I will be sad for a long time and the last thing I would to would be to hit on another guy.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

I think the ones who handle it well never cared in the first place, that's why it was so easy for them to move on. girls get attached more, but guys get attached to less women they date but fall really really deep when they do. I've seen men cry over women they loved. the ones they did truly love, they didn't just move on to the next party like everything was cool. when my uncle almost got a divorce his whole personality changed, he was so sad. so that's why if I were to see a guy out partying and gallivanting after a breakup, I would question how deep his feelings were for the past girl. sure some people do try to distract themselves from a breakup but most of the time I think they just weren't that into her. there is a difference between how much a guy cares about his wife vs how much he cared about the girl he dated for 8 months when he was 23 if that makes any sense

[Northeast106]

@pr3ttybrown It all depends on the person really. Just like people handle death in different ways, people handle break ups differently. A girl said it best, how some men can compartmentalize. I do this well, I couldn't think of how to word it though. I'll just told myself she's remarried, your divorced, get over it. I just handle it well I guess, it's not that she didn't mean anything to me, I adored that woman.

[Northeast106]

@pr3ttybr0wn

[pr3ttybr0wn]

@Northeast106 I don't understand this compartmentalizing thing... I don't see how someone can do that, if you love someone don't you think of them all the time?

[Northeast106]

@p3ettybr0wn I did think of her, I still hear from her even but we both knew it was over. You just have to tough through it. It took me about 6 months to get over her, she didn't call me once or miss me at all. She already had another man lined up and remarried really quickly, so for me it was a reality check. I don't regret filing for divorce, I knew it had to be done and it protected me from her.

[Northeast106]

@pr3ttybr0wn your name is killing me lol

[Hannah591]

They ignore the pain, hide it and act like nothing's happened. They get on girls to distract themselves and keep themselves busy to avoid thinking about you and the break up. Whilst you heal slower and eventually get back on track, his hidden pain slowly seeps into his life and he eventually feels the pain much later on, when you're feeling better. Basically, they hide and delay the pain only for it to hit them like a train down the line whilst women deal with the pain instantly and then heal.

[springocelot]

I think it's because they have a easier time compartmentalizing their emotions and lean towards being more goal-oriented. The past is the past for them and they will go for the next catch so to speak, even though they might not be 100% over the last break up. Of course, not all guys are like this.

[Mememama]

Most are! I've been with most lol

[Anonymous]

Depends on the guy.

If he is mature and happy with himself he will stay single until he heals from the breakup. If he's immature and not happy with himself he will jump straight into another relationship or 3

[Opinion Owner]

Oh he and men handle relationship breakups better than women because they never really wanted to commit to her in the first place. It's no big loss to him

[Asker]

That's sad..

[bananatossing]

No I don't think so. Girls generally have much more support from their friends and family, and they get to talk about it anytime they want. Besides, girls can take a night out and get all the attention they want in seconds, is that easy for them. Not because they don't care, but because they probably are overwhelmed with the support and sympathy, and all that helps.

When a guy is in love is a different story. I may be only speaking for myself but when I got heart broken I isolated from everyone else. I even looked like a lunatic sometimes talking to myself, I just disconnected from the world, barely went out. Those where the worst months of introspection I've ever had. It wasn't until I hit the gym again and started focusing more on my hobbies that I started to gain balance and come to my senses.

[Anpu23]

Guy's deal with emotions differently. What you don't know is that guys withdraw when they are sad, they don't talk to anyone, and just get into themselves. One of the healing steps for a guy is to start looking at other girls as potential mates (usually more potential sexual conquests, but that's a different story) and they will start hitting strip clubs, and bars and try to forget HER by looking at that girl, oh and that girl, oh and that girl, oh and... (you get it). So what you are seeing is actually not a recovered dude but a dude in recovery, make sense?

[Asker]

That's a great answer. I was thinking because my ex was expressing his sadness a lot, suddenly went all over girls then cut them off one after another. I thought he wasn't that sad about everything at first but now I understand a little I suppose.

[Hannah591]

Exactly how my ex is dealing with it but recently, he said he hadn't spoken to anyone for a week which is unlike him so that was a big indicator that he wasn't feeling too good.

[AI Opinion]

Ways How a Man Handles a Breakup

A breakup is a difficult and emotional experience for anyone to go through. But it can be especially tough for men. This is because society expects them to be strong and stoic in the face of adversity. But the truth is, breakups can be just as hard on men as they are on women.

If you're a man who is going through a breakup, it's important to allow yourself to feel the full range of emotions. This includes sadness, anger, frustration, and even fear. It's okay to cry and to express your feelings. You don't have to be strong all the time.

There are a few things you can do to help yourself heal and move on from a breakup:

• First, it's important to stay active and get plenty of exercise. This will help to release endorphins and improve your mood.
• Secondly, make sure to eat healthy and nourish your body. This will give you the energy you need to get through each day.
• Finally, take some time for yourself and do things that make you happy. This may include reading, listening to music, or spending time with friends and family.

Breakups are never easy, but by taking care of yourself and giving yourself time to heal, you will eventually feel better.

What happens to guys after a breakup?

There is no one answer to this question as everyone deals with breakups differently:

• Some guys may become withdrawn and depressed, while others may throw themselves into their work or hobbies to distract themselves.
• Some may even become more outgoing and social, using dating or hooking up as a way to cope with the breakup.

Ultimately, it varies from guy to guy and depends on the situation.

How long do men take to heal from a breakup?

How long does it take for a man to get over a break-up? This is a question that has been asked since the beginning of time, and it's still one that doesn't have a clear answer.

There are a lot of factors that go into how long it takes a man to get over a break-up:

• The length of the relationship, the reason for the break-up, and the way the break-up went all play a role in how long it will take a man to move on.
  Generally speaking, the longer the relationship was, the longer it will take a man to get over it. This is because he has invested more time and energy into the relationship and has likely developed stronger feelings for his ex-partner.
• If the break-up was caused by something that was out of your control, such as a job loss or move, it will likely take less time for you to get over it. This is because you can rationalize the break-up and know that it wasn't anything you did wrong.
• However, if the break-up was caused by something that you did, such as cheating or lying, it will likely take longer for you to get over it. This is because you will have to come to terms with your actions and why they led to the break-up.
• The way the break-up went also plays a role in how long it will take a man to get over it. If it was a mutual decision and the two of you are still on good terms, it will likely take less time for you to get over it.
• However, if the break-up was messy and there is still bad blood between the two of you, it will likely take longer for you to get over it. This is because you will need to work through the anger and hurt that you are feeling before you can move on.

So, how long does it really take for a man to get over a break-up?

There is no clear answer, as it depends on a number of factors. However, if you give yourself time to grieve, process what happened, and focus on taking care of yourself, you will eventually be able to move on.

[gray_sailor]

They handle breakups the same way they handle everything else in their lives. Men compartmentalize everything.
There is one little box in a man's head where the pain of a breakup goes. Everything else functions as normally. This behavior is good for returning to normal life quickly. It's bad if you never deal with the pain but just let it accumulate over time.

[Anonymous]

Depends on the nature of the breakup. If he initiated it, he'll be over it soon. If he was deeply in love, he'll take one of the two routes:

a. Find a rebound girl pretending he's over you. Once things start to get serious with rebound girl, he'll annoy her by being overly sentimental about you. Rebound girl will break up with him.

b. Stay single until he's ready to date again.

[Asker]

I've been there on a.

[kheserthorpe]

Men are taught from childhood that their own feelings are to be ignored.

So they ignore them.

Sleeping with other girls makes men feel better so if that's an option they will take it.

Them dating or having sex has nothing to do with being over their ex.

[vjreejr]

Because they weren't in love. A man in love who is dumped becomes jyst a lump of depressed existing flesh for a long time.

[Northeast106]

We headbutt objects until we have brain damage and all memory of her is gone...

I don't know, I handle it well tbh. Some people are just more emotional than others, and it takes them longer to get over divorce or separation. Not all women get sad over it either, but most do.

[bubble_tea]

They get over someone by getting on top of others..

[Anonymous]

I was looking for true love but she had high expectations from me. She wanted a rich boyfriend who buys her expensive gifts. I broke up with my girlfriend few days back. Yes it was painful but I don't want to cry, I'm a mature man. I watched a movie, I went to a party, I fucked a whore and I jerked off few times.

[Anonymous]

Women get over it easier--which seems natural, since finding a new SO is overwhelmingly easier for them. You simply ran into a small percentage of guys who get over it easy, mainly because he never actually cared.

[muspelhem_5]

I don't handle them well at all. As far as I know, men also statistically handle divorces worse than women.

[alphadoggystyle]

that might have something to do with the fact that about 80% of divorces are filed by women, at least i remember those numbers being so one-sided.

[Roadcruiser1]

I don't. I have a hard time with break ups. Us Guys are just better up in hiding our emotions. Guys don't want to look weak at all. :).

[InquisitivelyNoxious]

Same way as women. Most men are uncomfortable with showing it.

[mmm122]

Day 1 : fuck that bitch , day 30 : i hate myself