How do you men deal with a breakup?

[Anonymous]

I just broke up with my boyfriend 6 days ago and it seems like he didn't care. He didn't fight for me, communicate to me, or show signs that he was concerned. He just simply ignored me. Why do some men act like this? And why do some men ignore the situation and want to get back with the ex-gf months after the break up. Is it male pride? Did they seriously just lose interest or did they just not want to show their emotions?

[thetheme]

When guys show emotion many girls see that as "nice", weakness, and wussiness. That is NOT where a guy wants to be because those guys don't get the girls and they are not seen as a MAN. There are guys that get dumped and fear that the girl that dumped them is the best they can do or he will never find another girl. Then there are guys that panic and do the stupid things such as chase, try to bargain, negotiate, and annoy the girl by trying to communicate with her in all ways. It's the fact that the girls have already made the decision days or even weeks ago, and usually the girl is with someone else or planning to be very soon.

Moving on is best, especially for guys. Trust me many guys try to get the girl back, but be truthful here, how often does that work? Be honest, when many girls get chased they think, "Awwwwwwww isn't that cute, he wants me. Too bad I don't want him". However she still wants his attention until she is done with him, gets with someone else, or gets annoyed with it. When a girl breaks up with a guy and gives the guy excuses it's best to move on. If it's because of fighting and/or arguing it's best to stay away for some time and MAYBE come back later. Chasing does nothing except boost the ego of a girl and puts her on a pedestal.

Guys begging looks unattractive as hell. For the most part no matter what a guy does or says at that point it doesn't matter anyway. So moving on and moving forward is the best, and by the way that intrigues a girl the most! Even if she doesn't care about him anymore she will still think why he hasn't got in touch with her. We all know or have known a guy that doesn't heal for a long time after a break up and it looks horrible, then there are guys that move on and don't put their life on hold. It depends on the guy. However since guys are not usually chased, it's best to just move on from some girl that doesn't want a guy anymore.

It's not that guys don't have feelings or emotions. It just looks terrible, silly to a point, and unattractive to girls. Why should a guy have interested in someone that loses interest in him first?

[mshaker]

It depends on the person.

It also depends on if they even saw anything with you.. it also depends on if they even cared, or if you were just a time killer.

Normally the ones that care will cry and try to work things out. That's how you know you got something good.

The ones that don't cry or bother to fix anything, do what your ex is doing right now. Not talk. Cause you basically broke it off for him. So he doesn't want to fix it. So you basically did the dirty work for him..

And also the ones that just used you as a time killer also don't show remorse.

[vmw2008]

Guys deal with it in their own ways. Most of my exes seemed great on the outside, I knew they were partying and hooking up with new girls very fast after the breakup. Months down the line though when I would run into them, they would eventually express to me how miserable they had been. Depressed even. One cried in front of his friends with me there too. They're forced to put on a tough face, but because they don't get their emotions out like we do, it can actually take them much longer to heal. They bottle it up, talk to no one about it, and it festers. While women tend to have friends with which they get emotional support, guys tend only to open up deeply in romantic relationships. When they lose their S.O. they lose that outlet as well.

I suppose if they were very ready for the relationship to be over then they would get over it fine, but more than likely they're just good at hiding it. I had an ex that reacted similarly after a breakup, and only months later did he reveal to me that he'd been so depressed he'd cry at night. There's also a picture on Facebook I found once, it shows the differences between how men and women deal with a breakup. On the first day, the woman is crying and the guy is partying. Weeks after, the woman is starting to cheer up and the guy is in deep thought. Months after, the woman is running happily through a field and the guy is crying. I think this is a very true comparison. It usually doesn't hit a guy until later down the road.

[kheserthorpe]

It hits them right away, but men tend to discount their own feelings, and partying and other women numb the pain.

[Anonymous]

I don't think that boys suffer as much as girls do after break up ( I know others will lynch me ) . I broke up with my ex boyfriend and he didn't care too,

Boys aren't so emotional like we are, they easily lost interest and easily fall in love again - that's maybe pesimistic but I think in most cases it's true.

[alzzey]

ik because of experience that girls suffer a lot more than guys, but some guys will cry and beg for you back. uk what girls doo..its like a tornado! lol

[yopyopyop]

It's just that we won't show it.

If you dump a guy who has a little pride, do you seriously expect him to cry or fall to his knees and beg you ? Not happening.

Which doesn't mean we won't care. We just won't show it, that's all.

[dante1990]

ah,i may be dejected for a long time……but when I meet my new girlfriend,i will try my best to forget my ex,or just hide it,'cause I don't wanna make my girlfriend sad.

[Anonymous]

Do you want him to gravel? As they say, there are a lot of fish in the sea. Girls will come and go. Why get so hung up about one that has made it clear they don't want you anymore?

[Opinion Owner]

lol grovel not gravel.

[ArrograntWarrior]

Drink and sleep on neighbor's bed