Am I cheating no contact by having a mutual friend contact my ex?

[Anonymous]

I just want to know how he's doing. 😔

[BetaBucks]

If it's a restraining order, yes. If not, that's up to you. I'd say yes.

[Asker]

No definitely not a restraining order against me. I'm just really concerned about him. He was more than just my boyfriend. He was my best friend before we got together.

[BetaBucks]

Fair enough. But make sure you're being honest with yourself. Are you worried about him, or do you miss him and are trying to connect?

[Asker]

I guess I'm not being completely honest. I miss him terribly and it was a way to feel connected to him again without actually contacting him. But I will try not to do that again.

[BetaBucks]

It's good that you can spot that. And a sign of strength that you can admit it. I know what you're feeling sucks. Badly. But it will, without a doubt, pass. You 100% for sure won't feel like this forever.

[Asker]

Thanks. It really does suck. But I have hope that it will get better.

[BetaBucks]

For sure 🤝

[Drewtate]

Yes.

[Asker]

Oh ok thanks