How can I heal and self improve in hard time?

[Jules281]

Hey I need advice me and my boyfriend just broke three years together and I’m really having a hard time with school and job and I lost A lot of my friends and feel so lost and alone I need some tips I’m also sick I’m not winning in life right now how can I rise above this

[Summeroflove]

Allowing yourself to grieve because you’re going through a lot. Loosing a boyfriend, friends, a job, and whatever else. It’s not as easy as just getting over it because getting over it is a process. Many people give bad advice because they themselves haven’t processed a lot of emotions of their own, so they tell you what they’re doing even if it’s bad advice.

You’re still young at 18 so you’re still building your life. Allow yourself to grieve get mental health support if needed. It may take time but eventually you’ll pull through it.

Even on the hardest of days make sure to get up and do something even if you don’t have money to go do a lot of things. You can focus your emotions into writing, painting, drawing, talking to someone you trust, or just doing some hobby. Exercising just whatever it is that you personally enjoy doing. Going for walks, hikes, and things of that nature.

Sometimes we need a day to just rest but willpower is a powerful thing because it’s easier said then done to just “get up and do something”. But be job seeking even if it means doing odd jobs for the time being. It’s better then doing ontyfans or selling drugs. Lol…. Just saying.

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn sis, I can't imagine how tough all that must be going through it right now. Breaking up after 3 years and dealing with school/work stress on top of losing friends - that's a lot to handle. But you know what? You're gonna get through this and come out even stronger on the other side.

For healing, I'd say lean on whatever other close girlfriends you still got. Talk to them whenever you're feeling down, they can help lift your spirits back up. Try writing in a journal too - put all your feelings onto the page to help process them.

It's also good you recognize you need to self-improve. Small steps each day, like eating healthy foods, going outside even for just 15 mins to get some fresh air and vitamin D. Thinking positive thoughts too - focus more on what you're grateful for instead of what's got you down.

Exercise also works wonders. Put on some dope jams and just dance in your room for a few songs each night. It'll relieve stress and who knows, maybe TikTok a dance or two to help you laugh and feel less alone.

Most importantly, be kind to yourself through all this. You deserve love and care too, so make sure you're giving that to yourself as much as possible right now. Lean on those who love you, stay busy with small goals each day, and before long you'll be back up on your feet feeling better than ever. You've got this girl!

[molonski2]

Firstly " My boyfriend and I "

Secondly , if you have been together 3 years , that meant you began at 15 years old , too young , you will have many boyfriends in your life , don't get stuck with one.

You are young get out in the world and enjoy your life , and don't worry about these things which will soon be meaningless.

[Staximus]

Nevermind your dumb boyfriend, just concentrate on getting healthy and being good to yourself. Get your shit together and start moving forward. Your boyfriend is not your life. You're young, he doesn't matter that much.

[Anonymous]

This is a joke if that is your real age. You will have many boyfriends over the following years. Move on.

[Iron_Man]

Go to church and talk to God