Trying to heal but hurting every step of the way?

Question

I've made a lot of mistakes, said a lot of things, done a lot of wrong and hurt those close to me- been hurt by others and been used. Long story short I don't want to stay in a cycle of pain hurting myself, being hurt or hurting others. I especially don't want to keep building a wall between me and God, I know I have issues but I'm having trouble getting through them. Someone said I need therapy, someone else said shadow work. I'm curious about how others moved forward and healed, christian or non

Oliverlogan263 · Accepted Answer

Girl, I totally feel you on wanting to break free from that cycle of pain. It takes real strength and courage to even realize you wanna heal and do better. Don't be so hard on yourself - we all mess up, it's how we grow.

For me, journalling really helped. Just letting it all out on paper, no filter, and looking at my patterns. Prayer too - even when my faith felt weak, just being honest with God helped me feel less alone.

Therapy was another game changer. Having someone neutral to listen no judgment and help me understand myself better made such a difference. And reading stories of other people's healing inspired me to keep going.

Remember that healing isn't linear either - you'll have good days and bad, but as long as you're committed to growing, that's what matters. Also surround yourself with people who love you unconditionally. Their support will lift you up.

You've got this sis. Keep taking it one day at a time, forgive yourself for past mistakes, and just focus on becoming the best version of you. I promise if you do the work, over time the hurt will fade and you'll finally feel at peace. You deserve to heal!

jshm2 · Accepted Answer

You need fucking discipline in your life, and maybe a good beating or two depending on your criminality.

Unless you're just trolling, (in which case a simple kicking and shallow grave, will suffice) you need to change direction and go meet new different people.

Daniela1982 · Accepted Answer

God told us we would be going through Tribulations in our lives. We can take the hard lumps on ourselves, or trust someone else to soften those blows and even take them away. No human can promise this, only God can because only He can actually do it. Those who reject God will receive nothing from Him. Who can expect anything from someone here on Earth that we hate, especially if they know we do? Why would we expect different from God? Don't knock it until you try it.

rosemilk · Accepted Answer

well i have good news, you are aware of this and noticing it and are wanting to put a stop to this. so that's great! i just think you need time

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

Letting go of the past, the past won't change but you can learn from it and make changes to your life, don't torture yourself about what happened and worry about what will happen and how you will make it happen, making bad choices means you can learn and make better choices.

strateguy632 · Answer

focus on now! what do you need to do today. the past you can't change. and of course pray... and put your regret into words to tell your preist oops, only to god.