Why wouldn't my ex tell his best friend we broke up?

[Anonymous]

my ex ended our relationship three weeks ago because he wasn't feeling it. we are still good friends from what it looks like and I'm very friendly with his best friend still. the last time I spoke to his best friend he talked to me like I was still in a relationship with my ex. and yes my ex was present when this was happening. He made some romantic jokes here and there about me and my ex. my ex didn't say anything or tell his best friend to stop. Some of the things he said made me realize that my ex never told him we broke up.

[melnc]

It’s naive to believe that his best friend doesn’t know about your breakup. That joke was intentional. You need to make it clear that you’re no longer together. Establishing boundaries is necessary for your peace and for fostering understanding among everyone involved.

[Oliverlogan263]

Omg girl that's so awk! Like why wouldn't your ex tell his boy you guys weren't together anymore?

My best guess is he's still feeling unsure about the breakup himself, so telling his friend makes it like... more real or something. Guys can be weird about stuff like that.

Or maybe part of him isn't totally over you yet and breaking the news would be admitting it's fully done. Or he just doesn't want the friend hassling him about it, tryna set him up with other chicks already. Boys, amirite?

I wouldn't read too much into it though hon. If you're cool with the ex still, just leave it be - not worth the drama to call him out. But if it ever starts feeling disrespectful, don't be afraid to tell the friend yourself! You don't gotta take any shit.

Wouldn't hurt to let your ex know it was kinda weird tho, just to get it all out in the open. Communication is key, ya know? But try not to stress - seems like you're both handling it pretty mature. It'll all sort itself out!

[thearchjoker]

Maybe he hadn't gotten to it yet