What are some signs you should break up with your boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

I’m dealing with quite the dilemma. I think I’m losing interest in my boyfriend but I don't know if it’s temporary. In the beginning of the relationship, I fell in love because he would be so considerate of my feelings and would love me like I was the only woman in his life. But over time, we’ve been through many arguments, family and friend troubles, and a cheating situation (he planned a date with another girl and lied about it). I stayed with him because I love him and care for him despite him pushing my boundaries over and over. Recently, he’s been doing everything right and seemed to change but I’m losing interest in his life, his hobbies, and hanging out with him. He’s having troubles with money and I don’t want to leave him when he’s struggling but I constantly feel a sense of dissatisfaction. Is this a feeling that goes away or is it a sign to break up?

[DreamCrescent]

I’m sorry you’re going through this, girlie


i think you can benefit from a little introspection


the question you’re asking from the general public is what outside factors to look for that should tell you whether or not to continue a relationship with someone or end it


No one can tell you how you feel. You loved him at one point, he’s struggling financially now and you would feel guilty, he’s trying… does any of that address the overarching question “is he your person? do you want to commit to him and have in your life? or is are your feelings towards him just blah?”


i know it sounds idealistic but set a standard of what you want out of a relationship and how you want to feel towards someone. let that guide you.


a placeholder is just that. and ending up with someone because of circumstances isn’t fair for either one of you. my guess is, he isn’t getting the best version of you either


when you want to be with someone, you don’t have hesitations about it and your mind is at ease
yes, there is a honeymoon phase to all relationships and a bit of healthy ups and downs. but when you’re over someone you won’t be able to see them as your person your partner. alternatively, when you’re in the right relationship, neither little things nor big things make you feel blah and unsatisfied. they’re frustrating, they require work and renewal of commitment and all of that but there’s always a sense of happiness you’re working toward. something about your question makes me think you’ve lost the outlook


recognize, I’m not advocating for a breakup or recommending that for you. but a breakup isn’t a failure


sit with yourself, realize what your heart wants and be at peace with your next move


good luck, girlie

[Danny_dan92]

The relationship is toxic