I am getting thoughts of breaking up with my boyfriend. Read description below and advice?

[Anonymous]

Brief reasons for thinking the way I am thinking:
1. In 2 years that I’ve been with him, the only time i felt like i was his girlfriend was when i was not his girlfriend - the talking stage, the impressing stage. The roles are reversed here, I am the man in this relationship - babying him, mothering him and still getting nothing in return.
2. There have been no gestures in the past months where i’ve felt wanted, cared for etc.
3. I get 0 emotional support from him, i have cried on the other side if the bed and he hasn't cared a bit. Even when we are in a fight, he gets agitated as soon as my mood switches. Moreover, its me who consoles myself and try to patch things up.
4. Regular drinking and smoking is not something i like, and even though we are working, not in the college life anymore, his toxic substance intake is insane. Thinking about my future with a guy like this is honestly becoming a bit difficult for me, keeping in mind my family, future and if i would even introduce him to my family.

[Jessica405]

He sounds like a waste of space. Wooed you, got you, then ignores your needs. Happens so often.

Call it a day before you get in too deep. I think you should end it now. Make sure you have a SAFE PLACE to go!

[Screenwriter]

Thoughts? Sounds like you should've left this dude a long time ago. You are not getting your needs met on any level.

Leave this substance abusing guy. He is abusive and troubled on many levels. You have many choices at your age. Find a new place to live and get on with your life. Good luck.

[StevenMcGarrett]

You definitely made your case and now I hate him too! Lol. Anyway yes break up with him now especially before the holidays. Find someone you want to be with. Good luck.

[OlderAndWiser]

If this is not the man you want to be the father of your future children, it is time to move on and look for someone else. Anything else is a waste of your time.

[AI Opinion]

As a relationship coach on Girls Ask Guys, I'm here to help you navigate those tricky emotional rapids. It sounds like you're juggling some heavy emotional baggage! That role reversal you mentioned? Total red flag central. When you feel like you're mothering instead of partnering, it can really mess with the romance vibes. Emotional neglect, especially when you’re crying for support—ouch! And the drinking and smoking? Not exactly the cherry on top of a healthy relationship sundae. Follow your inner compass and consider what's best for your future. Remember, love should feel more like a duet than a solo performance. 💫

[Summeroflove]

When thinking about breaking up tell him either you can try to work things out or immediately end things. Don’t string yourself along in a relationship you’re not happy in and especially don’t do that to someone else either.

Let me tell you something you have a lot to offer don’t throw it away on someone whose non deserving of it. Let him find someone whose as one sided as he is because imagine this is the rest of the relationship. Tell him you’re unhappy and why you’re unhappy though depending on the severity of it some people just don’t realize it. Other times if it’s to the extreme you’re just going to grow bitter and miserable with him.

If you’re giving him emotional support, you’re planning all the dates, you’re getting him gifts, you’re showing him affection, you’re talking to him giving him advice, working through his problems, the list goes on. If he’s doing none of that then you need to leave. You deserve better and someone else deserves you.

Number one you don’t deserve to be miserable and the second thing is. Isn’t there someone deserving of all of that? Isn’t there guys out there who are willing to put equal effort into a relationship? You’re throwing it away on someone who doesn’t appreciate it and takes it for granted.

[Alwayreckles93]

You have no obligation to be his substitute mother. From what I've read sounds like he is a momma's boy eww gross stay away from mommy boys that's disgusting. You must be his number one priority and he must always spend time with you. This dude he is no realen he is asn child. Run fast.

[Danny_dan92]

Once it gets to this point it’s pretty much done.

[In_Trance]

Break up