How would you feel if your ex said they never had feelings for you?

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V_Injector · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't feel much of anything... they're an ex for a reason and they would say that kind of shit... I expect them to say that shit. It's like a gotcha move like when a liberal here in the States mentions January 6th.

I would ask myself why I'm even contactable to this ex? Like, why is that even a thing? What... am I so desperate that I leave contact with an ex open?

I guess you could take a moment that wouldn't last more than 30 minutes to reflect on it and truly understand why this dude was with you for however amount of time it was while he had no feelings for you. Were you just a booty call? Were you just paying his bills? Did you have him trapped in some kind of commitment? If you're interested in self-growth I would advise you to reflect on that and figure why he was even with you then. What made this man stay with a woman he didn't even have any feelings for? It's a good question for you to ponder. It could help you in future relationship endeavors.

I'm a man though... and you can probably tell because I go into logic before I have any feelings. I have a feeling I might feel like a piece of shit once I figure out why I kept someone around that had no feelings for me. I feel that I'm about to discover something that is wrong with me and that doesn't feel good knowing I'm not perfect.

Thankfully all the people in my life has constantly reminded me that I'm not perfect because I'm not a woman. Nobody lies to me and tells me it was just other people's fault. They pick at and prod at my flaws. If I had feelings I was abused for having them and learned to simply not have feelings.

You're a woman though... enjoy that special treatment. Most people are going to tell you why he's a piece of shit and avoid any notion of it being of your own creation. Humans seek pleasure and avoid pain so I think you'll agree with them more than I.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

I wouldn’t care , that’s why she is my ex , her words wouldn’t mean shit to me and clearly she is talking out her ass if she even said that because why would she be with me in the first place? So just ignore negative remarks from an ex , they are just upset it didn’t work out with you

meetkitty123 · Accepted Answer

Whatever obviously they're an ex

If that came to me after already being separated from him and moving on I will not care however if we were in the process of breaking up and he was to yell that at me during the break up then that would sting

I've had a situation before with a ex

Who claimed he had no feelings for me now this came after we had already broken up and I was extremely angry at him and severely dislike him so I really didn't care that he claimed he had no feelings for me to begin with

Now where this jerk did upset me was in the following situation

he claimed he was a shame of having a child with me because of my race and he even went as far as saying he had no idea what he was thinking for dating someone of my race because he never wanted to have a child of my race and that he's ashamed that his child is associated with my race...

This I found offensive and painful not for me not because of my race but because he's ashamed of MY CHILD being half my race... The pain I feel is on behalf of my child knowing the pain this causes my own child.

Vesuvius87 · Accepted Answer

If over the phone this is the reply: Wrong number, bye. Blocked If somehow it's in person: You have the wrong person. We never met. Bye.

ohsheeT · Answer

They are an ex for a reason
And I would probably just shake my head in mumble you didn't know what you're talking about then and you don't know what you're talking about right now how do you know what I feel no I wouldn't even go that far I would just shake my head

HawkPerception · Answer

Thankfully, they're my ex. I might feel a little hurt that I was lied to during the relationship though.

melnc · Answer

I'd think they’re just trying to save face because they know they wasted my time.

Anonymous · Answer

Depends on what context they said it in.

If it’s during an angry break up then that is meant to be more of an insult. Comes as no surprise they would say that.

But if it’s said even toned while nobody is upset then it’s really extremely selfish and nasty. There are more respectful ways to convey that to someone without having to say that outright.

I got one ex in particular who spoke to me like I wasn’t even there. She didn’t say “I never had feelings for you” because I know that would be a lie. She was the first to say “I love you” and she said it often. Her actions while we were dating made that very clear.

But she talked to me like she was complaining about me to her best friend or counselor. Talked to me like I was less than human.

THAT haunted me for a very long time. Haunted me for years if I’m being honest.

Nonamez · Answer

I would not heart me much , I'm myself not best for showing feelings, for expressing them , maybe one question will come up is , why person was with me in the first place 🤔 with any partner I moved to different roads I didn't made any scenes , no point , cos it changes nothing , I can think and rethink after many times of my or my partners faults , but I won't show hysteric and won't make any dramas , some people want that , but no one will get this from , always act cool as ice 🧘

Shamalien · Answer

My last ex did say this to me. She really twisted the knife as hard as she possibly could. I just wanted to give her her clothes back that she left at my house and wish her well.

I don’t think she knows what she felt. She was the first to tell me she loved me, but she also was very cruel to me during her episodes, so who knows. I think she just wanted revenge cause I ended things

Daniela1982 · Answer

I would feel good, knowing that I was right for dumping him and taking him to the cleaners in the divorce.

mstbooblover · Answer

Your ex saying he never had feelings for you is most probably a plain lie meant to hurt, or upset, like a child would do when having lost something and pretending to not give a damn... All you can do is shrugging your shoulders and forget.

Fireguy17 · Answer

depending on how long we were together it would be fine, or I would be upset that she didn't tell me that earlier so I wouldn't have wasted my time with her when I could have been with her best friend from the get go.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Been there done that. not gonna it hurt since the break up came a few minutes before that. But looking back at it really it just pisses me off more then anything because she wasted my time.

Yuki020 · Answer

Ehh, I’d probably say something like: “Yeah, I know; you don’t hurt someone you love like that” Though, if he’d said that before I moved on, than I would’ve probably felt horrible and used and most definitely trusting others would take so much more time and effort.

smashleyy · Answer

I wouldn’t take it personal. Hurt people try to hurt people. I’d assume he was just trying to make me feel shitty cause he does and that’s a immature thing to do

slatyb · Answer

I wouldn't care. Why am I still in contact with them?

MemeSupreme · Answer

why are they lying  and if they're being serious then wtf why pretend and waste your time like that lol

BetaBucks · Answer

Like they're an idiot for being in a relationship for someone they didn't have feelings for. Which is normal, but still stupid.

NathanDavis · Answer

would give them an Oscar, a Tony, an Emmy and a Grammy too on the spot...

nron987 · Answer

Wouldn’t care, would see them as childish if I didn’t already. You didn’t have feelings for me yet dated me? Ok, stay salty.

mistiQ · Answer

Well he would already be my ex so i would not sweat it too much. Life goes on

electromagnetic · Answer

They’re an ex so who even gives a shit at that point?

Gwendoline · Answer

I don't have an ex but if I did I would wonder why he feels the need to tell me that.

Flower7 · Answer

I would feel like I'd wasted a whole lot of time.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

I'd be concerned because baby that obsessive behavior says otherwise

Unit1 · Answer

Nothing

Starrrboy · Answer

Well, that's actually good to hear... because they're not in my life anymore and that would make them even more irrelevant and less attached..

Staximus · Answer

Like this

SAMI_DABBAB · Answer

If it’s a biter ex I’d feel nothing, if it’s someone I know is reasonable it will bring me real pain and it will shoot my self esteem for a while

Anonymous · Answer

It really wouldn't surprise me to tell you the truth. I don't think most women truly love men.  And before anyone gets mad. I said MOST not all. I just have a habit of meeting the most.😆

elaphe · Answer

I wouldn't believe it. I would think she is being nasty. Why would she have dated me if she never had feeling for me? It makes no sense.

Anonymous · Answer

I dont care what an ex says or thinks. They are in the past.

Simslover92 · Answer

I would feel crushed.

RingOfFire · Answer

That's just about the cruelest thing I could think of anyone saying.

red324 · Answer

They always say that stuff, in one ear and out the other

LiamJHayden · Answer

I would assume it was her way of coping with the relationship ending.

cloud9vortex1234 · Answer

I would think she was lying and only said that because she's mad.

Swordnen · Answer

Been there and now I live like a zombie, i do not get feelings for anyone.

Kelly6 · Answer

@itsmeirem  Ex, past, history  I don't care

Anonymous · Answer

It wouldn't come as a shock to hear it from a man.

blinkyT8T · Answer

that wouldn't surprise me considering the fact he was A Jerk

Radiate143 · Answer

Thanks for telling me what I already knew.

MicahRaine · Answer

"Well that simplifies things"

luvstoned4him · Answer

heart broken but live eventually goes on

jshm2 · Answer

Well... she fucked like she did.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Furious that they lied to me

SweetDripp · Answer

I'd feel relieved they are an ex

rienna888 · Answer

I’d be like “yeah it was obvious”

Mehrsia · Answer

The aim was to inflict pain and hurt. Ignore it

12karen · Answer

I'd feel very sad and used

dudeinohio · Answer

I'd be ok. After all... they are an ex.

jahaims · Answer

Why would I care what an ex thinks

SmileyLady · Answer

No skin off my teeth.

In_Trance · Answer

Stop interacting with your ex

Kellyamy · Answer

I will feel sad for a while and then move on

EnjoytheDay777 · Answer

Someone trying to hurt me. I'd get it.

Account · Answer

No problem.

Anonymous · Answer

That would really suck.

red-lipstick-girl · Answer

Nothing

jojouzumaki · Answer

I will feel nothing.

Jennz6 · Answer

Betrayed

CubaPirate · Answer

Disturbed

Slim57 · Answer

They did say that

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