I feel really lost and I don’t know what to do?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been in a relationship for four years since I’m 17. I’m having a really hard time leaving my boyfriend after I found out he cheated on me for the second time. Our relationship is really confusing because he really made me believe that him cheating was my fault, but he’s been nice kind of The thought of seeing him with other girls makes me literally wanna throw up. I don’t know how to get over it I feel like I’m just staying with him out of attachment and not because I genuinely love him because he doesn’t treat me properly. He’s lied to me multiple times and I’m truly just lost. I don’t know how to move on and let go of him even though he hurt me so bad I feel like I should be angry at him, but for some reason after him cheating on me, I wanna be with him even more am I normal? Am I like demented or something? I really don’t know what to do.

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah, that's really messed up what your boyfriend did. Cheating is never okay and it's definitely not your fault at all! No one deserves to be treated like that. It makes total sense that you'd feel lost and confused, because breaking up is really hard even when the other person was treating you badly.

It sounds like maybe part of why it's so hard to let go is because you've been together so long, since you were pretty young. But you shouldn't stay with someone just because it's comfortable or you're used to it. You deserve to be with someone who respects you and is honest with you. I know it's really scary to think about moving on, but being single might help you see that you can be happy without him too. His cheating has probably messed with your head a bit too, trying to make you think it's your fault. But it's not - it's all on him for breaking your trust.

Maybe try talking to some friends you trust about how you're feeling. And don't be so hard on yourself - it's normal to feel confused after going through something rough like this. But I think once you're out of the relationship for a while, you'll start to feel better and stronger. You got this!

[MisterMystery]

You shouldn’t keep someone who cheated on you in your life.

[Christophert10]

It always hurts but it gets better honestly trust me 💪