I feel so lost and don’t know what to do?

[Anonymous]

I feel like I’m just marking days. It’s not really a way to live. I don’t know what changes I need to make.

objectively things are better for me now than they were a few years ago because three years ago I still had tens of thousands of dollars in debt, and right now I’ve got 400+K.

that’s the positive. On the downside while I’ve got a pretty good job as far as jobs go, My real dreams are to be a success in politics.

But I’m also 33 and never had a girlfriend, went on lots of disappointing dates. But that’s about it. There are a few people I’ve had friendships with in real life but they’re not close by to me anymore. So I really don’t have anyone to hang out with on a regular basis. I really want some good friends that I can see, and I really would like to find somebody I’m crazy about who feels the same way about me. There are some instances where I probably could’ve had sex but I chose not to because I really wanted to wait until marriage, or at least mean something….

I would’ve probably moved near New York because of my job but I don’t have to be in the office so there’s no need to. I really don’t like the city, except it is a good place to meet more women and I like museums and such. As a conservative I’m not going to be able to start a political career near New York and take it far enough…So as you can see that’s a conflict.

I’ve got the money to travel more now, but I haven’t really done that much. I want someone to go with. Rather than by myself. I’m also still living with my mother. Because I don’t know what to do. I don’t know where to live. It’s a big commitment resource wise so I really need to pick a place I can be happy and at least find a life that I could be happy with. And my younger brothers haven’t lived at home in two years, makes me sad. But I don’t know, I need to start a new chapter somehow..

I never felt like I fit into the world , I feel like people are mean. I don’t know how to get the things I want. I’m very lost and confused.

[Sandeeppingping]

You know what bro? People are mean and you won't get along with most of them most of us don't, those who do are just fake, also for politics you're gonna have to harden yourself like freaking mufasa, also need a bigger network, go hangout in places where rich people hangout, golf courses certain events in your field and outside of it, if you hate going alone hire a hot escort who speaks fluent English and sounds smart and take her with you (money is not an issue for you and it's not some skanky person they're too high end), you'll look like the fuckin man in a second, fake it till you make it and then you become it, then once you've established the people who hangout with, your interests and all, you can pursue that politics career as well as finding the woman you'd want to be with since that now you're not just some guy with money, you're an established guy who's doing shit and is respected by people around him, be charismatic, even if it's tough fake it, better than being too nice or not trying, also work on your looks my guy especially clothing, tailor fit if you're fat maybe lose the weight

[Sandeeppingping]

Then travel to the carribean set up some bank account and start a child trafficking business I don't care bro but the options are endless, you just have to take initiative you're in a great position

[Anonymous]

You don’t know how to get to the things you want?

You went from being in debt to having over 400k. That’s an incredible accomplishment and achievement. I’ll NEVER even have a fraction of that money. Never.

In some ways I feel bad for you, with the dating and lack of travel and so forth. You seem somewhat sheltered, like you haven’t really lived as much as you should. Sorry if that sounds mean. It’s not my intent.

If I had your money my god, the places I’d go and things I’d see and do. I’ve traveled more of the world than most people despite being poor and completely uncertain of the road or even destination, but I like to wing it and get in adventures.

I guess one bit of advice I could tell you is to ask yourself, “What does happiness look like to me?” What would it take in my life to make me content and happy?

Moving isn’t that big of a commitment. I literally just throw my stuff in storage and figure it out as I go.

[Asker]

Why is it that impossibly hard for you to build $?

I have a lot of stuff I won’t part with. heavy crates of books and boxes of stuff I want to keep, lots of clothes, old
Video games etc

[Smoke-n-Growls]

You want to be in politics but think people are mean?

I'm gonna give you some advice: don't go into politics. You're not going to be happy.

You've got money, you've got time. Take time off work and book in to see a therapist regularly, then take time to just explore things you might like to do.

Take a new class, learn a new skill, pick up a new hobby. Identify what it is you enjoy doing and what brings you joy.

Then, start to build more of that into your life.

[Hermeticthinker]

I've been there and yes the world is cold and mean like you say, that why some feminine energy can help, a lot, even if it's not "perfect". When I was about 35 and lost like that there were two things in particular that helped: I started going to strip clubs and eventually found a few nice ones (I live in the SF bay area) and absorbed some feminine energy, but even more helpful was expanding my online dating world and work it like a part time job, and to include the kinky dating sites because some of them are real and not traps and I met some wonderful women on them and had a few beautiful, long term relationships.

[Anonymous]

Go to therapy.

[Hermeticthinker]

Excellent suggestion, yes therapy can be so helpful, and there is free therapy if you don't have the money (at least in California). Just be brutally honest with them and see if they can help you, a good one can at least make some suggestions, and if you don't get a good vibe from them then try another therapist, and there are specific sites and people for relationship and sexual matters, just google it.