Been called ugly all my life and dont know what to do?

[Anonymous]

I've been called ugly all my life since middle school. I had a guy friend in high school who i thought was really cool and thought he didn't think i was ugly. Until one day I remember overhearing him calling me ugly to another friend of his and hearing both of them laughing at me and fighting over them wanting to date my sister. I have been so focused on my looks since high school that i dont have a personality and dont know what i like. I wasn't ever into him but hearing that actually hurt me.

Now that im older i do think im more attractive usually when i wear makeup. I also wear glasses and NEVER take them off cause think i look ugly without them. I do attract guys but they never stay interested, im pretty sure theyre trying to get sex. I get told that im pretty and gorgeous always by a bunch of guys but the same guys never seem to see me as serious in wanting to date me I guess. I had a "boyfriend" for 9 months who really wasn't my boyfriend but acted like a couple because i was sleeping with him. He approached me and asked for my number 9 months ago. He would make it seem like we were going to date but when i would get there, he never wanted to do anything, go anywhere public and made everything sexual. We would have sex and i wouldn't hear from him much after that until he wanted it again. I lost my virginity to him after pressuring me and afterwards his effort decreased but we still talked. It wasn't until two months ago i found out he was cheating and we got into a fight. He called me ugly multiple times and admitted thats why he never wanted to be in public with me plus he told me that his main goal was to only sleep with me. This has made me feel even more horrible and that im back to being ugly again.

[yucychan]

I'm sorry that you have to experience such bs in your life. That high school guy friend you have, you know he is not your friend. No real friends would laugh and insult you behind your back.

As for your so called boyfriend, he is scum. That's the only thing I can describe him. Never let anyone pressure you into doing something that you do not want to do, especially sex.

in my opinion, I do not think you are ugly but you do seem to attract the wrong type of people. You need to be careful with whom you interact with. I hope you focused on other stuff besides your looks, such as your well-being, your health. How about focusing on what you want to do, your hobbies or what type of career you want.

[Caliguy88]

I think guys that say that stuff to girls are usually tying to be funny and they are really not saying you’re ugly. Guys can be very bad at flirting. I ran into a girl not long ago form high school. I was at a restaurant alone eating at the bar. She came in alone and we recognized each other. We chatted but haven’t seen each other in years. I told her that I always remembers a class we had together and I always thought she was cute but I was to shy to ever say anything. Anyways. Looks wise we probably paired up just fine…. But she told me she thought I didn’t like her because I teased her. I was like, omg, I was trying to flirt with you. I didn’t say anything bad ever. But she took my flirting the wrong way. Anyways. I’d just do your best to laugh it off or tell them that not nice. I’d bet you’re pretty if they are calling you ugly. Nobody would call a really ugly person ugly.

[thisluvv]

Girlll.. I can relate. I honestly think you need to start talking to better guys who care about you as a person and don’t see you as a object.


This might be stupid, but perhaps make them wait a while before you have sex. See if they care about you

[thisluvv]

Also if you are in highschool, then it’s going to be a bit difficult cause most guys are just horny

[jimmy2]

I bit you are beautiful