We are in a long distance relationship and i try to visit at least once a month and usually stay a couple of days when i do travel to see him. after he told me what his mom said, its made me feel really uncomfortable about even thinking of visiting and I've lost respect for his mom.
Is the place your boyfriend's or his mother's and if it is the second one, is your boyfriend still staying at his mother's place?
If the place is the boyfriend's, then the mother has nothing to say, even if she pays the rent. Everyone is entitled to his/her privacy and the mother is actually infringing on her son's private sphere. This is a total no-go and a red flag. Your boyfriend on the other hand lacks character to tell his mother that whatever he does within his 4 walls is none of her business.
If, on the other hand, the boyfriend is staying at his mother's place and you just "invite" yourself over to her place, then she is justified to say something. However, her behavior also indicates that she is a very controlling person.
Whatever the scenario, she lacks diplomacy and is not the type of mother-in-law you wish to have.
Now, you have to be cautious about the entire situation because if you make your boyfriend aware that you dislike his mother, this will cause a conflict and if your boyfriend has a weak character or personality, he will not stand his ground and defend you but he will defend his mother. Good luck.
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If the place belongs to his mother , then she is in her right. And no one has crossed a line. in my opinion you just took it too personal.
First off who’s house or place of residency are you going? His or his moms? If it’s his moms then yea she has a right to say who comes in her home and how long if it’s his then she needs to butt the fuck out of business that doesn’t concern her. And if he doesn’t have the balls to say the same thing. Then she will walk over you for the rest of your relationship because he has no back home against her so you will have no support.
His momma has more pull than you in the end. How are you going to respect her out of this⁉️
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I wonder what she'd say if you asked him to start visiting you instead
How has his mother crossed the line or him?
Maybe you are staying too much?
You're only 25. She's older and wiser.
Respect your elders.
How often does he come to see you? Maybe he needs to start doing that more regularly.
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