I kinda want a boyfriend but dont know how?

[Anonymous]

I am a 25 year old female and I feel kind of bored with my dating life. I am studying, I have hobbies, dreams, a job, I have friends.. but I have always had a 0 romantic life for different reasons. I was never interested in dating. I never really liked anyone because I focused more on other things. I had guys like me. Not like a looong file. I dont think I am ugly and I am really smart. My beauty is particular however. I am not the type of hot girl but more the petite who looks way younger.. and I dont know if that really attracts people. I dated a guy for 2 months last year and it ended really bad and It was really hard for me overcame that failure because I was in love with him but not him. Depression led me to get involved in a relationship with a guy I knew when I was a teen but never saw in person. He has a 10 year relationship and I offered him to have sex. Deep inside me (I realized this later) I was looking for someone to love me. We met twice and out of the blue he ghosted me. Later on he told me his girlfriend was suspecting. This last pseudo affair I had left me wondering why I am unlucky with guys and love overall. I started wondering if I am unattractive, act/look crazy? My self steem is really low. I want to fall in love.. i want someone to love me but I keep finding guts who are not for me. Who lose interest really fast or the ideal ones are already in a relationship, are gay or would never notice me. It is a very stupid concern. I know I should focus on myself.. but I am bored.. I feel like I am getting old and I'll get good things in the professional field because I know I have opportunities and inteligence. But when it comes to love I feel I would never experience what it is to habe a guy invite me dinner, buy me flowers, tell me he loves me. I hate myself for being so stuck on this mindset.

[Ironmunkee]

When we're hurt in a relationship we carry a lot of pain and express it in weird ways we dont even realize. It can last a long time too.

You might feel bleak and hopeless after a bad breakup and fearful of the future but more opportunities are out there whether you realize it or not.

Maybe slow things down a bit. Better to find someone you love and loves you back so you can grow old together than rush to date someone because you are hurt then later realizing it isn't the right person then feel trapped.

And of course finding someone to talk to is always a good idea. This feeling will pass I promise you. Im in a similar situation for different reasons and Im hoping it will pass. . . lol. Best of luck!

[DarkWinterNights]

You may consider seeking out a therapist. Just based off of what you said, it leads me to believe there is something you need resolved. I saw one for an issue and over the course of several years I found that there were multiple issues I wasn’t consciously aware of. Finding the right therapist is key though. You don’t want one giving you answers, just one to help guide you to your own conclusions.

[Lifelive96]

Maybe you want to be loved but deep inside you are afraid of intimacy. That’s why you choose people who are emotionally unavailable or disrespectful. You must try to heal your wounds first. You always have time to have relationship even you are busy but you didn’t want it. Sex is a need too so it is normal that you want to have sex with someone but because he has girlfriend it is not okay. But because you do not want to be attached to someone you choose these people.(subconsciously). You can talk with a psychologist and try to fix yourself first. You can have 1000 men who love you, but if you do not love yourself you can not believe any of them.

[Anonymous]

You're a woman you don't need to know how to get a date or get a boyfriend

[HighValue]

Being petite is good. That's my favorite.

[Sorbay]

Go To the gym