My girlfriend wants to die?

[Anonymous]

My gf told me last night that she wants to die. She says it a lot as a response to undesirable things or situations, which I tell her to please not say but I never thought *too* much about it. She said last night though that she actually wants to die. She said she's not gonna kill herself... yet... because she can't leave her cat to other people since only she knows how to care for him. She was diagnosed with major depression and a few other mental disorders. She moved in with me nearly two months ago which is a half hour from where she's lived her entire life. She doesn't have a job and is terrified of getting one due to her anxiety and it's hard for her anyway with dyed hair, a bunch of bills which she can't pay for, and she doesn't have a driver's license so she can't see other people unless i take her or a friend comes and picks her up (she doesn't have many friends anymore tho and the couple she kinda has isn't usually willing to drive that far). She says her anxiety and depression are progressively getting worse. While I'm at work all day, she's left alone with her thoughts which makes it worse, on top of me not able to be there for her. I asked her if she thought the move was a mistake but she denies it, saying she'd feel the same living at her last place. Before me, she had a really abusive boyfriend which was her best friend since the 7th grade and a bunch of other people in her life that treated her as if they've never cared about her in the first place. She's also on tumblr a lot and follows social justice blogs and basically blogs that show nothing but depressing things, which make her even more depressed. I don't know what to do. I thought what I've said would help, but she's overall pessimistic. She has so much potential to do great things but doesn't believe she can do anything. She's just sad all the time and i dont know what we can do in our current situation to possibly help her. What can i do... i feel helpless. Please help.

[LukasTheLovely]

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I had an ex like this. Very low confidence and very pessimistic, the only way I could help her overcome her difficulties were by

encouraging her and staying positive for her
Working out with her every morning before class
Compliment her and cuddle her
Buy her things she liked.. such as vases and picture frames
Take her to get her hair and nails done as this really helps with a girl's confidence.

Things got better and that's all the advice I can give :)

[Asker]

thanks so much. I'm just trying to keep her busy and around things she likes. I could workout with her more though. Don't feel obligated to answer at all but you say she's an ex... did the relationship end because of her being like that? a yes or no would be enough. I just think this relationship is still worth it through all of this... I just want to be with her a long time and her depression to not cause ain't to end..

[LukasTheLovely]

No it did not. It ended because of her parents coming out of nowhere into her life and trying to run it

[Jgriego]

I'm going through the same thing. My girl has a job and friends. But everyday i here that she doesn't like life, wants to die. I feel she needs to find purpose. But i can't force her too. It's sad and it pains my heart. I wish there was a better answer. I get a lot of negative reactions. But i stick to my guns. Not sure it's the best thing. I just do the best i can and show her she's important to me, even if she wants to denied it. She doesn't have control of it.

[Anonymous]

Why are you still with her? She sounds like such a defective person. I think you should get her surveilled at a hospital.

[Jgriego]

It's not that easy when you care for someone