My boyfriend hardly talks to me?

[pandah]

We have been together just over a year, he's 22 and I'm 26, we moved in together last month and yeah I spose since then its been a big hit in the communication department. He'll get back from work and go on his xbox and chat with his mates on xbox live. We used to see each other on weekends only and them 2 days spent together were just us, no technology coming between the things we did together, but now, even on weekends he prefers to just sit on his xbox chatting away with his mates and I dont get any time to talk to him. He might mutter a few things to me before he retires to bed and I will spill out all the things I have wanted to say but by this time he is way to tired he is hardly listening and dozing off to sleep, and yeah, thats right, no energy for any sex either, thats very lacklustre, once a week if I'm lucky. And its me that wants it more.

He says he loves me and he wants to send his life with me and all that stuff, we are serious about each other but I just feel like the communication end of things is so poor I find it abnormal and like this is not something thats headed for long term... or is this normal?

Maybe I should just keep away from him, give him more space and he will want more to do with me then? I dont know I am so confused, I do kinda like love affection and attention and to communicate but he just never seems that bothered, I find it hard to believe he loves me anymore :(

please help.

[ESPNforever]

HA HAHA I had an ex just like this... The dreaded XBOX spell... haha and I was the guy obviously. Except for that lacklustre stuff, well sorta I used to have sex like twice a week lol. I was fixated on NFL Madden on xbox. I would work, school, xbox till I fall out. You have to get rid of the xbox, but only temporarily. During these WEEKS you take the xbox, make sure you tell him all of the issues you're having, tell his ass to have a cut off time for the system because if not, he's going to have to find somewhere else to play that thing. Next lay the cookie on him, and communicate for a few weeks, come up with some stuff to do besides play xbox. If he acts right for a few weeks and sex drive is normal , give it back. If not, send the system away. Somewhere he can get it, just out of your house. Worked for me lol Glad i could help

[Nik1hil]

What kind of girl are you calling someone your bf who does not talks to you , and some people have sex just time and still call them friends+fuck buddies.

[pandah]

well we do talk but for like 10 minutes a day I spose all added up together, but its not much

[Nik1hil]

Get rid if Xbox , do not pull Xbox or he will go crazy , tell him how he want to spent his adulthood which checking out chick and having sex with you in love. or with a mechanical device which has games , games are good but all they leave us boys with is an urge to play more and every failure makes us feel bad, and sex is enjoyable and gives you more positive results in live , do not criticise his Xbox but let him know he has something better then clicking keys which he think he is shooting and firing , its just fake sounds and visual effects. best idea make 10 minutes video of him playing video game ask him to play the coolest part of any game also do not shoot things happening on screen instead shoot his face and how idiotic he looks playing the game he thinks it is coolest.

[Anonymous]

It seems like he is already taking you for granted and is too comfortable in the relationship, unfortunately. It's as if he checked off 'cohabitation' on his list and doesn't have to do anything further (for the time being). I would be so furious if I were you and probably would not stick around much longer. Good thing you did decide to live with him before the thought of marriage because at least you know what you are dealing with!