Would it be bad if?

[Anonymous]

Is it bad if I still attempt to be friends with my ex’s family? I knew his family when I was little due to a friend at the time. When me and that friend stopped being friends I stopped talking to the family. But when I started dating my ex I saw the family again. I always cared about his family. Me and him dated for 7 months and then he ended things with me. I miss him and I miss his family. Even though I miss him I don’t really have any hopes or plans of us getting back together. But I miss being able to talk to his family. Would it be bad if I still tried to stay in contact with them and maybe even visited them when he’s not around?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that's a tricky situation. I can totally understand missing the connection you had with your ex's family, especially if you knew them for a long time before you started dating your ex. It's not weird at all to feel attached to them, even after the breakup.

The thing is, staying in contact with them could get a little awkward, especially if your ex is still in the picture. Even if you don't have plans to get back together, he might still feel weird about you keeping close ties with his family. It could even come across like you're trying to stay connected to him through them.

That said, if you genuinely care about the family and they feel the same way about you, it might be worth at least reaching out to them and explaining the situation. See if they'd be open to maintaining a friendship, even if it has to be a bit more distant. Just be really upfront about your intentions and make sure everyone is on the same page.

Ultimately, you gotta do what feels right for you. If you think you can have a healthy relationship with the family without causing drama or confusion, then I don't see anything inherently wrong with that. Just tread carefully and be super respectful of your ex's feelings too. The last thing you'd want is for this to blow up and ruin the good memories you have with them.

It's a tough call, but if it's important to you, it might be worth giving it a shot. Just go into it with open communication and set some clear boundaries. Good luck, I hope it all works out!

[Christopherthegreat]

I don’t think so tbh you can’t help who you get on with