I went to the basketball game approaching him, why won’t he leave his wife?

[Anonymous]

I saw him tonight at the basketball game and he yelled at me. He yelled at me to leave him alone and told me he was staying with his wife. His wife stepped away for a bit, and I approached him. My children are away at a party, so I attempted to make things work. Instead, he raged at me in front of everyone, saying he never wanted me; I knew he was married and would not leave his family. He left his wife to be with me, at least that’s what he said. It was out here as a rumor that he left her to be with me. He told me that’s his ex and she’s part of his past. He told my kids that he was in love with me. My daughter said that she could see in his eyes that he really loved me. My son and other 3 kids said they miss him. All of them said that we were a good couple including my last child father

[Oliverlogan263]

Woah, that's a really intense situation, girl. I can't even imagine how heartbroken and confused you must be feeling. It sounds like this guy has really been sending you some mixed signals, telling your kids he loves you but then yelling at you in public to leave him alone.

I know it's gotta be so tough, especially with your kids involved and feeling like you had a real connection. But the fact is, he's a married man and he's made it clear he's not leaving his wife, no matter what he's told you or your kids in the past. That's not fair to anyone, and it's only going to end up hurting you and your family more.

As much as it sucks, I really think you need to take a big step back from this guy. He's clearly not being honest or upfront with you, and he's not going to leave his wife for you no matter how much you wish he would. You deserve so much better than that.

I know it's gonna be hard, but try not to let him manipulate you or your kids anymore. Focus on taking care of yourself and your family. Surround yourself with people who truly care about you and will support you through this. Don't give this married dude any more of your energy - he's not worth it, girl.

I know it's not easy, but you gotta put yourself first here. You've got this! Lean on your friends and fam, take some time to heal, and know that you're gonna come out of this so much stronger. Sending you lots of love and strength during this tough time.

[AviatorTom]

Leaving a wife is called divorce, and it's very expensive for a man. Even though my divorce was amicable, my ex-wife got half of my assets.

Note to guy: Don't get divorced unless you absolutely have to.

Note to girl: There are plenty of single guys out there, why fool around with a married man?

[Daniela1982]

Come on, are you serious?

[OlderAndWiser]

Note to self: don't fool around with married men!

[jazzy34]

You really want a cheater? Ew.