My husband wants to have other women but i'm not ok with it. he said and listen to to yts men saying that it normal, would it be bad if I leave?

[DiaLuna03]

First I want to say that when I say husband, I'm not married, he doesn't believe in marriage. We have two children one is 22 and the other is 10, we got together as teenagers. He now has a girlfriend again, he has had many, I have always been unhappy about it and act crazy jealous. I know and want to leave, I told him I can't take it but he tells me that this is how it's been for many years and I/women need to get back to expect has they have, that might be true, but he is not hearing me. Is this something that I need to expect? It hurts a lot, I cry to sleep. I want to leave, I know if I leave it will hurt but it will end the rollercoaster and will be able to move on. Issue is as I will be starting soon I will leave the kids with him as it the best option.

[abc3643]

You SHOULD leave.

Pure and simple: He wants to violate the marriage vows - in particular, the one involving faithfulness. For instance:

CHRISTIAN TRADITIONAL
I, __________, take you, __________,
to be my husband/wife
in righteousness and justice,
steadfast love and compassion.
Before God and everyone present here,
I commit myself
to be faithful to you
actively and creatively.
I promise to love you and serve you,
respect you and encourage you,
and give myself up for you,
in all circumstances,
for better, for worse,
for richer, for poorer,
in sickness and in health,
as long as our lives shall last.
I marry you in the name
of the Father, the Son, and the Holy Spirit.

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More informally, he wants his cake and to eat it too.

When you get married, you go into it knowing you aren't supposed to cheat. I don't give a shit what bullshit excuse he is using, in marriage, you don't cheat and he knows this and if his intention was to fool around with multiple women, then he shouldn't have gotten married to begin with.

Get rid of him.

[abc3643]

And you take the 10-year old. His promiscuity is sufficient indication of his unfitness as a father.

[JSmith925]

I never seriously considered multiple relationships because over the years I have watched others try it and it was always an extinction level event. No matter what precautions they took, jealousy and conflict set in and the relationship combusted.

Would it be bad for you to leave? It is absolutely necessary for the long term emotional well-being of you and your family. Take your children with you and rely on family and friends for support. It would be irresponsible to leave them with him.

One more thing. At some point after you leave, he will ask for you to come back, maybe even plead. Don’t listen. He is a compulsive offender and unlikely to ever change.

[SueShe]

Leave now rather than tomorrow. Any minute you stay with him is just making you more miserable. It is not normal and that statement is absolutely wrong.

He is a pervert and a huge red flag in any relationship. At his age, it is not going to be easy for him to find someone that he can fornicate with to satisfy his perversion.

You certainly should not feel bad for wanting to leave him. Even though you are not married to him, you can ask for financial support since he is the father of your children. Seeing that you are not kidding by asking for alimony may change his perception of the situation. Don't let lose because he will not change.

[Flower7]

Well the reason he keeps doing it is because you stay with him after finding out about it.

[Summeroflove]

Leave his ass

[GlowUpGirly5]

Wrap this up you've posted this 6x it's annoying.

[fantasticass]

LEAVE him.