Should I let my husband have sex with another woman?

Question

He really wants to have sex with another woman for his birthday. I am considering it but I'm still not sure. Do you think I should let him?

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

You need to be realistic about your own potential jealousy, and of the reality of the situation.

This woman would be NEW to him - and new is exciting. He's also going to assume that this is likely to be a one-time thing, so he's naturally going to want to "get his money's worth" and "make it count" - so most of his attention would be on her, rather than on you. Anyone would be that way - but it's very easy to FEEL that you're being ignored or that he prefers her over you or whatever - even though that's not true. She would be a rollercoaster ride for him: super-exciting for a few moments, but quickly over.

Still, your feelings are your feelings, and if this would make you feel jealous or betrayed, then it would probably destroy your relationship sooner or later. On the other hand, if you have an attitude of "this is a demonstration of how much I love you" - and if he is the type who would appreciate such a gesture in that way - then it could make you closer than ever.

I don't know you, and I don't know him. Only you can know how you think and feel, and how he does. But you should be talking this out with him - including sharing your fears and doubts and asking him what he can do to make you feel better - and what could happen if he doesn't - before you make any decisions.

Luopio27 · Accepted Answer

In the name of equal rights, if you let him have sex with someone else, he should be allowing you to have sex with another man when your time comes. He is a brave man asking for permission. I wouldn't have the balls to do what he has already done and I give you my respect for being considerate.

jemjem2017 · Accepted Answer

i went to a women's forum last week on how some people married last longer, they been married for 20 years. they are very one open and honest with each other. so one time the husband ask her what is your wildest fantasy he said that they never talk about it for 20 years and she said i look at him and i said i want to see you fuck another women, and his husband got shock and speechless for a minute and said huh? really? seriously? and she said yes. so they talk about it for a month they prepared for it. the wife choose the girl. so the day before that thing will happen the husband ask her. are you really sure about this? i'm doing this for you, just tell me right now so we don't need to continue, she said yes im drop dead serious, so it happened she said, she was so nervous but when they saw them having sex she said i felt jealous and anger to my self but at the same time it turns me. so after that they went home and already in bed. they talked to each other she said yeah it makes me jealous for a minute but its makes me turn on. to make the story short she said their sex life is much better she said i can't imagine that i can top what the other girl do to my husband. make sure that its all communication and don't choose a girl that is close friend or you know her.

MissMurphy · Accepted Answer

I voted "not sure" because I really don't know your relationship well enough to judge, but I don't think it's automatically a terrible idea.

I'd have an in depth conversation with him, if you haven't already. If even having that conversation is too awkward or unpleasant for either of you, probably not a good idea to go forward. If you're both intrigued, start considering what you each want from the experience and establishing boundaries. It could bring you together, having to establish really open and frank conversation about the experience. There's the possibility of it not working out well for one of you, so leave that channel of communication open during and after.

I think the worst thing would probably be shutting him down without an in depth conversation after he risked bringing it up. Even if you decide against it, make sure you understand why he asked and that he understands why you're against it. Get it all out in the open so no one walks away with unintentionally hurt feelings.

TiredGirl123 · Accepted Answer

Ok so change one vote to not sure since I only saw your update after I voted lol.
So, personally, I don't want my man having sex with someone else- dude or chick. If he does our relationship is over and that is very clear between us. Your question sounds like it should be revised to, "Should my husband and I do a threesome?"

But in your case it sounds like both of you have interested and desire in it. There are some polygamous couples who are very happy. Or, sometimes, couples try something new with sex and realize they don't want to do it again. I would try to think about why your husband wants to do it- because he is bored or lonely in your marriage? Because he is bored with the sex in your marriage? Or does he want to honestly try something new with you?

If you are both on the same page about it I say go for it. If not, hell no.

btbc92 · Answer

What's the point of getting married for you to just let your husband have sex with other women! This is not a marriage for you to be allowing that. NO. That is a cue for adultery and cheating. Do not permit this. This is how men lose respect for women and potential wives because of this. This is part of your vows, you have sex with him and he has sex with you. THAT is the marriage covenant. NOT Eve, Adam and Steve.

lostgirl_searching · Answer

It's sorta one time open marriage type experience.
So I voted for C because this is something you should really think about and decide on your own, talk to him ask questions, make an agreement. Make sure this is something you really want to agree with.

Jager66 · Answer

if it's something you're into or at least 100% sure you won't be bothered by it then I would suggest getting him a classy prostitute somewhere that it's legal to do so. That way there is no worries over them being in contact, or how he seduced her etc.. (if that's something you would worry about) You would be able to watch if you wanted or even participate possibly as well.

lazermazer · Answer

IF U R NOT A TROLL : Most people here are stupid. You should both should go for it. But be sure you also get what you want on your birthday.
Good luck 🍀, remember most of people here are virgin, socially awkward who can't do shit and also advise others not to do, they can't.

Anonymous · Answer

If you asking this question on this site, it says to me you have an issue with this so don't ignore that. You're not comfortable and 100% ok with this so no, you shouldn't let him. You don't even have to have a reason (or know exactly what your issue is), it doesn't matter. You're not ok with it so tell him so.

Anonymous · Answer

I am myself puzzled what to say. Many years back I was as excited as are you now. We have been enjoying 3some, mmf and ffm. I was of adventurous nature besides much sexy, so I wanted to see how it ended. When my husband desired to do so, I happily allowed him. Now I am alone, that he has left me for a young girl. I repent as if it was me who paved the way for it.

Anonymous · Answer

No. Your relationship will never be the same again. You cannot reset the past once it has happened. The future will consist of wondering if he is straying, having had a taste of honey. You need to sort out your marriage.

Unless of course, you gave sex with another guy on YOUR birthday.

BuchitaBuchys · Answer

If that's what you want, fine.  But to me, marriage is pointless if we're not going to be exclusive. I'd probably go nuts and stab them both if a guy ever wanted me to let him fuck another girl.

falafelany1 · Answer

What the fuccckkk ew I would never let my husband do that. I know we're all human and we have desires but even if he wanted to have sex with another woman I would hope he wouldn't tell me that. That is just so wrong. I would be very upset.

datgirl · Answer

I don't even know why people get married if they want this shit or allow it. The whole point of marriage is to be with just that one person not fucking others and having 3somes and what not. Smh.

Saramana · Answer

No! you will feel bad at the end im sure. you will feel upset and feel like he cheat on you right? Ask him, would he let you have sex with other guy then?

Scrambledagain · Answer

There is a rule in polyamory and open relationships: do it and if you don't like it, simply realise that you tried something and it wasn't good, so don't do it again. If you like it, you found something new.

normalice · Answer

this is a question you could only answer yourself. If you are even slightly hesitant, then I would say no. But you have to be honest with yourself about that..

SilverRain92 · Answer

What? What is the meaning of your wedlock, if so? Are you sure that he loves you and cares about your feelings? I don't know what kind of values and principles you have, but for me it sounds weird and totally unacceptable.

chrisbigman · Answer

A 36-45 year old woman is asking if she should let her husband have sex with another woman? Wow!!! Do we not have morality anymore? Did we ever have it?

Liisjak · Answer

He asked! Most men won't even ask lol, they'll just go and bang the waitress next door. Though if I was you, I'd ask him if he would do the same for you, no?

HarrisonWells · Answer

What is your relationship parameters? What are your feelings on it? If you have a loving, committed relationship, why bother jeopardizing it by letting him have sex with another woman?

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Of course not! What the hell is wrong with your husband?

Abe90 · Answer

If you let him do so, then he should be ok if you want to have sex with a another guy for your birthday

singlebee · Answer

Your twll me what are your feelings on this one? Would you be OK if he had sex with others? If yes then yes... Or if no then no

redxiii74 · Answer

it is something that can't be UNDONE, so opening that door to kinky life can't be closed.

LastNightmare · Answer

it's upon three of you.. it should not affect your relationship afterwards

Anonymous · Answer

WTH? Don't do that if you actually love him. How could you share someone you love?

ad48hp · Answer

Shame on you all, you're prude like C. K. Rakousko.

NessMess · Answer

These type of people i find disgusting.

tibadukes · Answer

i would say hell no to that but if you are into that then i don't see the problem. the only problem is having to find someone okay with what you want

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, he'll enjoy it and so will you. It will be a good experience for both of you :)

Anonymous · Answer

You'll probably enjoy it if you try. I know I did :D

Anonymous · Answer

sounds like you deserve each other if you do

SunsetLover · Answer

Looooooool.

Anonymous · Answer

You should let him do it. It could be fun :)

Mr-Kabuki · Answer

just have a 3 way

lumberman9 · Answer

Nope.

CT_CD · Answer

Let him do it

Anonymous · Answer

That's so gross

Anonymous · Answer

don't ever let him

Anonymous · Answer

Don't let him do it.

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