Should I let my husband have sex with other women while I'm pregnant?

[Anonymous]

My husband and I have only had sex a couple of times over the last few months because I'm pregnant and I really can't do it right now. It's 2 months until I'm due and he said that he really needs sex and if he can't have sex with me then he'd like to have sex with other women. I'm open to the idea of it. I love him and I want him to feel good and be happy but I'm a little worried about getting jealous. I could tell him that I want to be there so that he holds my hand and tells me he loves me while he has sex with other women... Would that be better? To be honest I've always thought it would be really hot to see him with another woman but I'm not sure if it will be good for our relationship. What if he likes the other girls better? Would he leave the mother of his child to be with some bimbo if she was hotter than me? Do you think I should do it?

Yes, let him

No, don't let him

Not sure

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+1 y

Some of you have said yes but most have said no. I just want to make him happy... If he just does it a few times with different women (not the same one) then he won't become attached or anything.

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+1 y

I think it should be fine. Maybe I'd even like it.

[Scrambledagain]

I'm polyamorous and my partner lets me have sex with other women. I am allowed to have sex while she is pregnant too (we've discussed this). I know some people who love watching their partner fuck other women or men. In fact I know of a wedding where the husband wants to see his bride have sex with another man in her wedding dress on the night.

It's not wrong (only closed mind people will say that), it's just different and you challenge the norm.

My only concern for you is that this takes a high level of maturity and sometimes that comes from experience. You usually try something, look back at it and see if it was good or not. If not, you work around those feelings and don't do it again (like my partner can't watch me in person have sex with another. She tried, but didn't like it, so now we know). But you are at a very vulnerable time emotionally and i don't know how you will react if it happens.

If you do this, and you find it hot, then watch him:) Also, with all open relationships, lay down some rules. For example, no sleeping over at her house, no romantic dates etc. condoms are top priority. Remind him that it's going to destroy him if he fathers two kids from different parents.

The other factor is that he will probably think of the other girl and flirt a lot. Just be open and communicative (another rule is to read his phone so he doesn't hide) and remember that anything new is exciting.

[madhatters4]

no you shouldn't. he needs to be patient. it's disturbing to me that he feels his sexual needs should come before your relationship. you are dealing with the same frustrations he is plus you are carrying his baby. he needs to man up and be patient and support you.

[samhradh_leannan]

Absolutely 100%. If this is how he is acting while you're pregnant with his child, I'm worried for the entire future of your relationship.

[madhatters4]

@samhradh_leannan exactly. what's he gonna do when you hve the child and you can't have sex because your vagina is healing from child birth, or when you have those first few years when you are exhausted and rate of sex declines.

he sounds selfish not considering the sacrifice the mother is making... as if his needs are of primary concern

[lovydoey]

He is going to be the FATHER OF UR KIDS!!! what will u do if he impregnates the other. DONT EVER PUT YOURSELF DOWN AS A SEX TOY and only please his needs while u will be there wondering 'is he falling for the other?"
THERE are other sex positions that u and ur husband can try while ur pregnant. If not just please him with oral.

Ur going to be MOTHER SOON! DONT THINK SO CHILDISH. AND HE WILL BE THE FATJER OF YOUR CHILDREN. BY DOING THIS YOU WILL ADD DRAMA THAT UR BABIES WILL HAVE TO GROW UP WITH AND THEY WILL SIFFER FOR THE "ADULTS" MISTAKES

[This_is_my_username]

what the fuck? why did you even marry they guy? He just blandly said? "ya if we don't have sex Im going to fuck another woman?" that's just so wrong. You say no and lay down some house rules chicka that shit shouldn't be flying in yo house

[Asker]

No, he asked me.

[chrissykerdock]

then he can geet another woman pregeant or maybe he'll decide he likes his new lover better then leave you or maybe he can have the both of you... it sounds insane your question... you must be majorly passive.

[CheerGirl38139]

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[Asker]

Have you done it before? Did you feel insecure or did you get over it?

[CheerGirl38139]

LOL nah.

It's not "common"... But it's more common that people think. It seems like the primary ingredient is a healthy, trusting marriage to begin with.

You seemed to be leaning in that direction from your question, so no harm in discussing it. Just make sure you're on the same page with your "rules of engagement".

[CheerGirl38139]

UPDATE:

The vast majority of users here on G@G will never endorse this, no matter how you phrase it.

Even the people that call themselves "open minded" - really aren't. In fact, the majority are pretty dogmatic in their beliefs. Not many people here are capable of considering alternate views on much of anything. Good luck.

[Asker]

Thanks :)

[CheerGirl38139]

My pleasure. Just trying to help.

[OlderAndWiser]

You both overlooked hand jobs and oral sex, so. . . you must be a troll.

[OlderAndWiser]

Update: " If he just does it a few times with different women (not the same one) then he won't become attached or anything." If your story is real and you are not a troll, this guy is controlled by his dick. If their pussy is tighter than yours or they let him cum in their mouth, he might say goodbye.

[MadeInAmerica]

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[AdamThomas]

No. Some things are better kept as fantasy. I think it could be damaging to your relationship. He doesn't "need" sex, he can wait til after the baby is born. Sounds like he needs to grow up a bit, but if you like the idea of that too you're probably not right in the head either.

[underconstuxion206]

Don't let him do that, if you guys are swingers, that's one thing, but if he just wants to have sec with another woman just bc you're pregnant, then he's just putting his needs before yours. That's gracious of you to think of him and put his needs first, but he needs to put first and foremost before anything else, including his libido. The thought of it might sound good in your head, but if you have to hold his hand during it, it's gonna kill you inside, and you will hate for it.

[Ripper_E]

A man that loves you should be able to hold it for a while. No one "needs" sex. There's nothing wrong with being turned on by the idea and it's up to you if you want to let him, but if you do you have to accept that he might like sex with them more. If you can't, you shouldn't let him, but it's up to you.

[Ripper_E]

You might like it, but you can't put it on him if you get hurt.

[BeerFarts]

I seriously hope that you're trolling. If you're not, then TF is wrong with you.

No, you should not let him do that. Nothing but trouble and heartache will come out of this. You don't need us to tell you that.

[Anonymous]

You should add another woman to your relationship permanently to live with you and all of you have kids together. Whoever is pregnant, he can have sex with the other. Nobody would be insecure or at risk of anyone leaving either if you all lived together and were all in a relationship together.

[Sunflower19]

Lol if he made the time to get it in and get you pregnant then he can wait a couple of more months. If he can't then he shouldn't of made a baby with you or got married.

[Drooogie4]

If you're actually into it, sure.

If you're feeling pressured, no.

Just discuss and be very clear with what is and isn't okay

[poopedmypantsagain]

Wow.. where did you dream that plan up.. that to me would not be smart at all

[DiegoO]

He has no patience, that´s a bad sign, it just makes me think you deserve better, is not like he can´t control his self and wait until you are ready. We are not animals.

[Rissyanne]

You are crazy if you do this.

[Asker]

Why? It will make him happy until after our daughter is born.

[Rissyanne]

What are you going to do if he wants to go on seeing this woman?

[Asker]

We're married. I highly doubt that he'll go off with someone else. He loves me

[Rissyanne]

Exactly you are married. Did your vows include him sleeping with other women?

[Rissyanne]

I guess your wedding vows didn't mean squat.

[Zazzz]

You are joking right? Like really? Tell me this isn't true

[mike5150]

No he can handle himself he doesn't need to have sex with anyone else.

[Djaaaaay]

You can still have sex sensually untill your 8 month. Why don't you two try that and keep each other honest

[lazermazer]

it's kind of a test. it's pretty cool though but you do know that it can create some problems

[Anonymous]

Why, why would you want that. Wouldn't that mean he's unfaithful, especially to the mother of his kid? If he's a decent guy, he will be with ONLY you

[Pac-Man]

I am positively triggered so you must be a troll.

[CheerGirl38139]

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[Anonymous]

Why want you let him have sex with you?

Pregnant sex is good sex just like period sex is the best sex.

[LunaKitty94]

Nope he can use his right hand until then!

[biguyct]

lol nice :P