Am I bad for wanting to leave my husband?

[Anonymous]

I Met my husband when he was broke, he moved to a new country and was looking for a job as a dj, he asked me out on a date and i was surprised that he wanted a relationship while having almost no money. He was staying at a hotel apartment, he wasn't able to pay his rent there. So I had to pay 4 months rent for him and I only knew him for like few months at that time. He started doing a gig here and there. But it wasn't enough, so I was paying for his taxi, our dinners in all our dates.. I was taking care of him. . He proposed like 8 months after. we traveled together to the Maldives, ofc I paid for it. We went there 3 times and all paid by me as he couldn't afford it. I paid for his trips so he could dj around the world. I paid for our wedding. Again becuz he couldnt afford it. Few months later I found out he is talking and filtering with some girls online, they were all half naked girls.. He asked for forgiveness and I let it go.. We had 3 babies. Some time he manage to pay for things , it depends on his contract. He is not cheap at all so when he has a good salary he spent money on me. Take our family to resorts.. then he end up broke again. His contracts usually don't last more than a year. And then he has to hunt for another job, meanwhile he put him self in deep debt, credit cards. Buying his dream car, while taking a huge loan. I never knew he wasn't saving, when asked he always say he is good. He put our daughter in a very expensive school even though I was against it. And becuz he lost his job and couldn't pay the school, now our 8 years old daughter is missing An entire school year. I resigned from my job not knowing he been in debt. And after few months I found out he used my end of service money without my permission. So he could pay some of his debt. He is a great father, hands on with the kids, they love him so much but I want to end this marriage. I completely lost respect, trust and love for him. It will devastate the kids..

[Benlovegs]

This sounds like a rollercoaster with lots of un known and trust issues, if you arnt happy with your relationship your kids see and learn from it and that’s worse then leaving. Kids apart to anything and if your support the guy most of the time maybe him having to pay child support would wake his ass up. This guy should be kissing your feet daily and instead he uses your trust and kindness. In all honesty I don’t see a future here. You need to move on and take care of yourself!

[Asker]

That's the thing. My daughter isn't happy how we both don't show any affection, and we argue most of the time. I just started realizing that he used me since day one. I do need to take care of my self. But I have to find a job so I could leave. Thank you for reply.

[Benlovegs]

You will find your inner strength and will come out of this 10 times better

[Asker]

Thank you so much 🙏♥️

[Benlovegs]

Here any time and sending you a huge hug

[DecentLovelyMan]

Sorry to her that.. he must have tried to be more succesful, to take care of you and Kids
He May be a good man but he sounds like that he doesn't know his responsibilities, and takes advantage of you

[DecentLovelyMan]

You there? Thank you for mho

[Nikki1989]

Not bad at all. You only get one chance at this thing called life. Don't blow it.

[moneymagnet24]

To be honest you're such a darling

[Asker]

Thank you, also so naif..

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes.

[Asker]

Can you pls elaborate on why yes?

[BarryLiverstone]

Because you married him. So best to work things out as he is your husband and not just a guy you know

[Asker]

That's true. But it has been so long and there is no change.

[BarryLiverstone]

Have you all tried counseling?

[Asker]

Nope. He doesn't want to

[BarryLiverstone]

Doesn’t matter what he wants. It’s a need at this point for the marriage