Other than if you have kids with them, why do you need an ex in your life?

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I find it unnecessary to have ex's in your life, other than if you have kids with them, even then, you don't really need to be hanging out with them, only to bring them over for time with the kids

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Personally I do believe in clean breaks. But I also have very few exes because I'm selective to begin with.

First ex I still speak to (bc first love kind of sticks in your craw) but very very briefly only for a birthday or holiday greeting and then we vanish from one another's lives again. We don't see one another at all. He has his kids, I have mine... it is what it is.

Second ex is my ex hubbie. The kids aged out of needing support or school funding, so now there's no need to speak to one another at all. He was horrible to me while I gave him everything. So I don't block him in case there one day is some emergency with the kids, but we haven't spoken in over 5 years... so... Done.

Third ex I blocked on all devices and medias. Long story short, he fumbled, married another gal and now they're divorced. No backsies... What's done is done.

Nearly-fourth ex... No need to contact someone who isn't contacting me. The door is slowly shutting on that one and when it does I'll be fine.

Overall, really there's no need to contact an ex... Those who make excuses to reach out are basically just asking for trouble.

Alwayreckles93 · Accepted Answer

This why if your white you must only married white or within your own nationality. This why I always tell people especially white men never dated a Fucking Latino!

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

You don’t need them in your life period , an ex is an ex for a reason. I distance myself from exes when I meet a girl that I want by my side , she doesn’t have to worry about my exes being a consistent part of my life because I respect her the same way I would like her to respect me. If she was still close to her ex and he was still consistent in her life, she won’t be my partner period maybe just a piece of ass

nawtee_me · Accepted Answer

Friends shouldn’t be thrown away so easily. I am still friends with my ex. We still talk a good bit. She has remarried and moved out of state. However we still get along and keep up with one another. We still love one another however, we are no longer in love with each other. If that makes sense?

LadyBecks · Answer

I think exes are an unnecessary complication, unless like you said there are kids

Purpleronnie · Answer

Ex’s … they are dead to me. There is NO NEED to have them in your life period assuming there is no children. Should I bump into them I wouldn’t even acknowledge them.

dudeinohio · Answer

Bad idea to be friends with an ex or communicate with them at all... unless there's kids involved.

When you get into a new relationship, your new partner may be upset.

Me, I consider it a deal-breaker.

AnonAndrew · Answer

You don't "need" them in your life, but you don't "need" to cut them out either.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Because someone you were friends with should remain friends. You must be a horrible person just to throw everyone to the curb once they are done with them. I am not that low.

Ironic_Method · Answer

My exes tend to also be friends. I didn't date them just because they're hot, I enjoyed talking and doing stuff with them. I still talk to most of my exes now and then.

Anonymous · Answer

because when it comes to making decisions for the children, the ex is the only one you can rely on or consult with. don't think your girlfriend will give two shits about paying for your kid's college tuition

Ariesman81 · Answer

Ex girlfriend's are pointless. Baby mamas are a pain in the ass. Women in general are a burden. You will be richer, happier, and more sane without them.

Miristheiss · Answer

You don't. Exes shouldn't be in your life.

exitseven · Answer

I never saw any of my exes again. They are all dead to me.

Anonymous · Answer

Agreed. When it's over, it's over.  However some relationships for some people migrate to supportive friendship well.

Manuelwe · Answer

Her money that she gives you to keep away. Also your kids by your new partner and your kids with her means cheap or free babysitting

Flower7 · Answer

That is not healthy.

TheLovelyWoman · Answer

My exes and I remains good friends.

Anonymous · Answer

Some people are friends with their exes

LiamJHayden · Answer

I've never gone on to hate any of my exes.

Ladsin2 · Answer

Who says you do?

strateguy632 · Answer

You don't.

Professor-college · Answer

I do not need my ex at all..

Anonymous · Answer

The are other reasons.

Other than if you have kids with them, why do you need an ex in your life?

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