How do you feel about getting a divorce?

[Anonymous]

My previous question was this and I revealed this was about my brother.

Why do people stay married if they dislike their spouse?

She is angry with me since my brother stated that he wants a divorce. She desired full control of the situations. She told the world that my brother had been the worst spouse ever, publicly humiliating me and our family. I did nothing to her, and she has even started to treat me badly.

My niece no longer speaks to her in such respect. In social media status updates, she has been tagging my niece, who rarely replies. In order to get my niece to react on the social media status, she texts her. She acted as though she was in total control of this marriage. She is free to act however she pleases, say what she pleases, and treat you as she pleases. Then attempt to turn everything around for her.

My brother needed her to leave their shared property, so he asked her if she had anyplace to go. Despite having just one job, she luxuriously lives off of his earnings. He is the one that serves in the military and works at several jobs to provide for his family. He was even kind enough to pay for her first two vehicles. She really made us all appear awful on social media while my brother was away on military duty.

In particular, my brother! She isn't financially stable enough to care for all three of the children alone, despite his best efforts to make this marriage work for their children. He returned home to this after being summoned away by the military. Because of her Facebook posts, several family members and friends called him to ask what was going on. She claims that we are the worst family and that he is the worst spouse ever. She suddenly became concerned about the family she had built when he brought up the divorce and the fact that people hardly spoke to her.

my mom told her that with all you posted on Facebook about us, telling people how awful he is, you should have gotten a second job and had your own place by now.

[Summeroflove]

She sounds like a narcissist I do believe people should honor their vows personally but if there is abuse, cheating, or you’re just miserable yes get a divorce. Everything will always be YOUR fault when it comes to narcissists. She’s angry that she doesn’t have control, she doesn’t have someone else she can jump to, she hasn’t been able to paint him in a bad light, etc.

I will tell you that you’re not married to the cocksucker and have absolutely no obligation to deal with her shit if she slanders or otherwise defames you get a attorney and send her a seize and desist take her ass to court.

Your niece that she’s obsessed with needs to do the same thing. They believe they are entitled and get used to people putting up with their shit until people get tired of it. These people feel as if they are entitled to invade your life but you better not invade theirs. If she doesn’t respect civil demands to leave her alone she also needs to take legal action both criminal and civil against her.

He needs to take it to court and fight this out. For custody, for child support, and use what he has against her. I know that she’s pissed off because she probably planned to divorce him. She probably planned out how she was going to frame him, smear him, as well as eventually find some other poor smuck to take advantage of. But It didn’t work out that way for her. Did it now…

These people smear campaign. There is no not having a dog in the fight you are FOR or AGAINST these types of people. There is no middle ground. There is no staying out of it. That’s how they think and they will even try to use someone’s own family against them. Don’t put up with her shit. Have boundaries and don’t interact with her unless you absolutely have to.

She will probably try to smear campaign you that’s what rhese people do. They play the victim and do shit like this. But she has no legal right to be harassing his family.

[Asker]

Spot on!!! She actually planned it out divorcing him and it backfired. Now she’s trying to make our family look bad because of nothing

[Summeroflove]

That’s what these people do and eventually it catches up with them. I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this. I assume she tried turning his family against him when that did not work you became part of the Smearing

[molonski2]

Look , its the most horrendous of times and sadly ( many ) people react this way , but you can only control what you can control , so try and go peacefully ( your bother and family ) , hold a belief in Karma , and hopefully over time things may improve.

Its messy , it leads to great hatred , try not to play that game , its not in the interests of your mental health for certain.

[Asker]

Thank you and yesss you are soooo right!!! I was so pissed off and overlooked this

[molonski2]

Having been though it once , with 2 kids , I would not wish it on anyone , especially if you live in the Western world , easier here , and much more gentle on the man.

[OlderAndWiser]

I understand your need to rant, but is there a real question here?

[Anonymous]

Sadly a lot of women are like this woman today.

They were raised to be Disney princesses, and spoiled the appearance of 'option' on social media as to convince them they are entitled to far more than they ever actually get. Thus finding themself 'settling' for less.

'Settling' of course is something girls are often told by friends and toxic cultural leaders to look down upon. Assuming either the ocean is big enough for a better option or the option she has is worse that it is.
Both assumptions are not good because its not the size of the ocean but how far you can swim that matters, and people without experience have no way of judging any situation.

Regardless because the woman feels she has settled and the nature of how dating works she can become resentful like she was ripped off and that leads to her disrespecting her husband whom she thinks robed her of better opperunties and living beyond their means to take what "she deserves". After all she is 'innocent' the fooled.

All terms and concepts our toxic feminist culture pushes.

[wk_85]

Even divorce is very painful and heartbreaker, but sometimes it's last option for overcoming from some serious problems

[Asker]

Yessss

[Ladsin2]

Divorce is bad for kids, and it's a breach of the vows you made before men and god. Should've never gotten to this point, and every effort should be made to salvage the marriage that is possible. If it can't be, then it can't be, but I wouldn't say that until it's over.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he married an entitled princess. Military marriages are notorious. I'd guess she's in it for the lifestyle and is a taker.
But he chose her, they have three children, and many women rely on their man financially.
So he needs to fix it. If he wants to

[trumpetplayerforlife]

My parents were married for 24 years when they got divorced because they weren't happy now they are both married to amazing people are the happiest I've ever seen them sometimes things end even after a long time

[Anonymous]

Getting a divorce is essential in some cases to protect both yourself and the other person from further hardship and pain.

[Asker]

I agree

[HungTexan]

I have no plans for a divorce! I’m very happy!

[exitseven]

She is the poster child for why you should not get married.

[Nikki1989]

Occasionally, there is no other option.

[Iron_Man]

I wouldn’t get married to get divorced I believe in working things out unless they cheated on me

[TacosRAwesome]

It's a necessary evil when all options to fix the marriage have been exhausted.

[Pterodon]

Sometimes divorce is necessary. Peoples situations change over time

[Bklynbadboy12]

I won't give a divorce if you marry me its forever.

[Anonymous]

It's the nuclear option. It should always be an absolute last resort.

[ienjoylookingatgreen]

boohoo get over it