If you have had a toxic ex, what was the first red flag you saw?

[Extraterrestrial1999]

[Alwayreckles93]

https://youtu.be/1zheXPaHtew?si=djOaG7xD0ADug4gH

[Crazzyyworld]

Well all women are hardwired to use men. So you should be recognize the game in the first place. Or be happy being used like many men does in this website. Using should be mutual i think but many women use men only for themselves.

[Dela_99]

Girl you did all this for what hope you got picked🤣

[Rosexøxø]

@Dela_99 lol she said it like a red flag but went on to say she personally believes both should use each other. There’s confusion up there 🧠 and also that’s not a biological woman. Seen somewhere else she said she was trans so she’s obviously trying to cope or assert herself in some way. Get more guys for herself or spew the dislike she has for women for whatever reason and she may not say irl. Jealousy or or something 🤷‍♀️

[Rosexøxø]

Just updating you cause she had gotten me mad a while back too lol and seemed to lack logic

[Dela_99]

@Rosexoxo now that makes a lot of sense and explains what is happening in that 🧠🤣🤣 the lack of logic pissed me off but now it all makes sense fr

[JackBlackHeartAttack]

She constantly had to check my phone but she was super secretive about hers. That relationship didn’t last long.

[NicholasRedone]

She was - right handed 😈😆✋🏻 or she had a bad attitude + that would not always show itself 😅😂

[Rosexøxø]

He was old and lied about his age to me.

So in some sense being single or divorced at an OLD age and seeking some relationship especially more so with an extra young person in comparison. And lying.

Another initial one was the disqualifying of my expressed feelings. If I communicated-ignored. When I yelled he yelled or said he had to go lol. When I had cried he said don’t cry. I couldn’t do anything and wasn’t allowed to express my feelings there because he wasn’t tolerating it. I wasn't someone he was serious about or wanted some kind of life with. If they’re not validating your feelings on the specific relationship or in general then… they gotta go.

[Rosexøxø]

If they lie about small things you can bet they lie about important things. Habitual liars and don’t value your trust nor respect you. They’re horrible.

[DishLady]

Skipping or glossing over small questions that aren’t complicated to answer.

[trumpetplayerforlife]

Him controlling my money then the verbal abuse and how he made me feel if I didn't sleep with him

[MikeTheBartender]

We went to a movie and she shouted for no reason at the cashier for something that was out of her control. This was back in my stupid days, rather than run, I stuck around for two years.

[NicholasRedone]

@MikeTheBartender I'm also sensitive to reputation / to having a woman who doesn't flip out or freak out easily - 😊😄

[MikeTheBartender]

@NicholasRedone amén

[NicholasRedone]

@MikeTheBartender did she come into you first or you onto her? Lol typo - 😛😂

[NicholasRedone]

@MikeTheBartender sorry Mike you had to experience that. Even if she was hot as hot - no one likes someone who can't bottle it 🍼🍾 like the rest of us lol 😅😆 "it was one time" she says lol

[NicholasRedone]

Thought you'd appreciate the refs

[MikeTheBartender]

@NicholasRedone indeed!

[gemb00]

Looking at me with not so nice eyes to see if I was looking at his brother.

[NicholasRedone]

@gemb00 crikey ; and I usually am hard to read eyes / my eyes must look like portals lol "🌌🌌" but I'm no glassy eye 😂

[Pupweb]

Probably belittling me with comments and jokes then saying it’s just me being too sensitive

[Nikki1989]

Being parked outside your apartment at all hours of the night is never a good sign.

[NathanDavis]

never have

makes no sense to go after red flags

[NicholasRedone]

@NathanDavis sometimes doesn't happen to dates in and then it's like baggage or "bad attitude reveals"

[NathanDavis]

@NicholasRedone I never went into a relationship with someone I really didn't know

[NicholasRedone]

@NathanDavis so many passing faces of women probably are thinking "if only if only" or "he's hot" - lol 😆 the joys of faces in a crowd "I'm just walking here," NY accent

[NathanDavis]

@NicholasRedone some say it... no big deal

eye candy, happens all the time

[NicholasRedone]

@NathanDavis yes I'm apparently to some women, believe it or not ; and I'm out of their league ahahaha lol 😆 "go figure"

[NathanDavis]

@NicholasRedone I don't believe in leagues

[NicholasRedone]

@NathanDavis embrace the leagues "that old Alf G on the British show, so rude in different contexts, people should stay in the league's they was allocated (in) to" lol 😂😆 I know my league - so it's a hilarity to me when hotter women actually stare into me 👀👀👁️👁️ it's like "lady + you sure you're not barking up the wrong tree" 🎄 🌲

[NathanDavis]

@NicholasRedone I never had to... it is what it is

[Agape93]

When he punched me in the face after his coworkers pissed him off that day

[septemberintherain]

My first gut feeling about people has always been right. If something feels off - run!

[Ladsin2]

She hit me with that Suck'n Spin cycle with a little hawk tuah. I should've known she wasn't pure.

[dlaczego]

He was crazy possessive. Fortunately, we never made it to the actual relationship stage.

[NicholasRedone]

@dlaczego was he the typical attraction because of a bad guy vibe lol magnet 😅🧲

[dlaczego]

@NicholasRedone
It appeared over time. The more possessive he was the less funny it was.

[NicholasRedone]

@dlaczego sometimes I wonder the same about women. They'll become a rubber ball at 30 because since 18 they've been burning in the sun under the guise of a tan. Shrugs - me here, I pass for 23 says one person and I'm only wearing sunscreen indoors in my photo lol 😆 legit happened

[NicholasRedone]

Big ego me, I" lol took care of myself and still do - some ladies don't aye?

[sage2021]

The lying 🤥

[Anonymous]

Treating waitress like crap

[blackeagle007]

Why interact with toxic exes?

[strateguy632]

She shouted.