Name some Red Flags that Prompt Suspicion when an EX at Times Hits you up?

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Guy13 · Accepted Answer

“Ex” and “at times hits you up” is a 🚩 🚩🚩🚩 especially on Valentine’s Day🖤 February 28: ❤️‍🩹 😢

Likes2drive · Accepted Answer

It’s probably because it’s getting closer to Valentine’s Day only reason

OlderAndWiser · Answer

I don’t talk to exes. If one called me and started talking about her recent bad luck, I would know why she is calling and it’s not because of love!

Anonymous · Answer

People overall need to a much better god damn job of communicating exactly how they want things to proceed after breaking up. Especially if you are doing the breaking up because YOU had time to think through the fall out to come after.

I told my last ex to never contact me or my family again a few days after I broke up with her. That was not my original intention. However I gave her the respect of sitting down face to face with her to break up with her.

She absolutely went batshit insane. Screaming, crying, throwing things, making a scene in a public place (we got coffee before walking and talking). It ended with her having to be taken into psych evaluation. I knew she had issues but nothing prepared me for that. A few days later after she got out she still was acting irate over text messages. That is when I dropped the axes and gave her a crystal clear direct message to never contact me or my family again. She respected that thank God. It was a warning.

But absolutely no women had ever been clear and direct with me about how things should be after I got dumped. In fact no woman has ever given me the same kind of respect like I did when I sat down with my ex. I’m a man so somehow someway if I’m expendable and possibly even “a threat” despite never losing my temper when getting dumped.

There was one ex in particular years ago who said “don’t be a stranger” when she broke up with me. It was more of a sad break up than an angry one at the time. I accepted it. Told her a part of me would always love her and gave her a hug and left. Then a few weeks later during an agreed upon meeting (for business) she proceeded to give me one of the worst insults I’ve ever taken from a woman in my entire life. Treating me as less than human (without provocation) was her selfish pos way of saying “don’t contact me”.

But I notice women tend to act all wishy washy about where to go after breaking up (some me too but I’ve never been that way). It’s like some sort of bs contingency plan just in case they later regret their decision. They don’t want to state what directly needs to be said.

Lliam · Answer

I wouldn't mind being contacted by any of my exes because I only have hard feelings toward one of them. I never want to hear from that particular bitch again. But I wouldn't mind finding how that others are doing.

I'm FB friends with my very first girlfriend when she was 14 when I was 16.

The only girlfriend I ever loved with every fiber of my being found me on FB 20 years after we separated. By then I had been married for 16 years. We even spoke a few times on the phone. I was thrilled just to be in touch and to know that she was doing okay. About five years later, I read that she died for a sudden medical problem. It broke my heart.

I wouldn't give any of them anything, though.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

In the case of my last ex, just her hitting me up!

I guess I could say the same about my previous ex but, not quite as strongly.

My first ex, nothing, really. We were still friends when we broke up and I haven't seen or heard from her in 22 years or so.

VIVANT · Answer

I don’t mind peope contacting me. If they did something weird I’ll deal with it but just saying hi, I’m not suspicious 😊

Leopard23 · Answer

If they have a boyfriend or recently broke up. Or they know your dating someone. A female ex is going to want to get back together around Christmas, birthdays, valentines or weddings.

Sixgunsound · Answer

The fact that I failed to take reasonable steps to prevent an ex from being able to contact me.

tonamimargaux · Answer

If they randomly pops out of no where always make sure to do a background check on them to know about their motive. Usually they don’t pop without a purpose

Smoothing · Answer

It will be the things she/he used to do that made apart of why you broke up. It is not always the same as individuals defer.

ManOnFire · Answer

It's most likely because either no one wants them or they're wanting to dump the person they left you for and want to see if they can try to swing back your way. Recycling old flames is a major no for me.

humanearth · Answer

When they are being overly nice. When that happens... Look out Their up to some bullshit

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I honestly don't know because if you're my ex you're not going to be hitting me up when I'm done I'm done we're not having any friendships we're not rekindling anything you're my ex for a reason so I'm gonna leave the past in the past how can you move forward when you have any even close that last chapter of your life that's the biggest mistake people make trying to be friends with their ex

loveslongnails · Answer

LOL Just the fact that they're hitting me up is suspicious, unless it's for sex. Then I don't care.

IronAvengerLemia · Answer

Slowly respomding to text when free Never makes free time Rude Bad hydgine

douride2 · Answer

Almost anytime an ex hits me up it is a red flag.

worldscolide · Answer

An ex is an ex for a reason, I do not talk to ex's.

Jennz6 · Answer

Well Paris, when he tells me that he is sorry and wants to make it up to me.

TrillXHippy · Answer

When they ask for money, when they see that someone who they used to date is actually happy so they wanna try to make it not that way

backwoodz_barbie · Answer

Id say if an ex hit me up thats already a red flag... lol... But I haven't had that problem and if so I would wait to see what they say if I would respond or not.

BJP21 · Answer

I dont have exes, I have examples of what not to do.

msc545 · Answer

Requests for money and favors are red flags.

LemiaOfThunder · Answer

Hello, em You know I still love you right, can you lend me £50. Or in the case of my first ex, You said You'll buy me a brand new PS4 and I'm still waiting.

torrahallo · Answer

Sometimes people are just lonely. It's human nature to reach out to people you know when sad or lonely.

exitseven · Answer

He only calls when he is drunk

rabbitzzz · Answer

Thats a green flag. Meetup and smash.

written-in-the-stars · Answer

Talking to ex is always a bad idea

LiamJHayden · Answer

Just the hitting up can be one.

Name some Red Flags that Prompt Suspicion when an EX at Times Hits you up?

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