Are threats to breakup common in relationships?

[Anonymous]

Like if everytime the girl gets upset she wants to breakup

[hahahmm]

There was some Marvel character that was a chick who can use her words to get people do do whatever she wants. I forget the name of the character but women are like that unless the man is smart enough not to believe everything. Of course feminists will say: believe everything... everything she says matters. Yadda, yadda. But feminists are also that special mutant. Beware.

[Anonymous]

If your question is concerned with the point you mention, then it most likely sounds due to lack of engagement and clarity from the guy's side.

[Asker]

I was always engaged many people called it a one sided relationship saying I was giving more then her even her own mom

[Opinion Owner]

Hmm, threatening to breakup is a little strange. She could have been distant (took an action) already instead.
Yet.. threatening. I can't really decide or judge, but maybe:
1] She seems she sees herself in control and you are so peaceful/way too obediant if I phrase it well.
Assuming a little of confused relationship.. could be due to her personality. Not being bad, but not managing well.

2] Its her way to call for your attention, which could be a little immature/ingorant way to do instead of choosing the proper words and actions. I'm here assuming its overall a more healthy relationship.

Do any resonate.. or something else.
I mean, try to think what is the thing she's trying to achieve by applying that pressure. What's the benefit.. personal (herself only).. inclusive (the whole relationship). I think that helps know why she does so.

[Asker]

Yeah it messed me up like I don’t know if I can ever give the way I gave in that relationship again

[Asker]

It may have been wasted on the wrong women

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe I'd say stay at a distance and get as neutral as you can.
It helps to see if she's more abusive as you feel or just lost and confused and needs you to take control more.
I always hear that we don't change people, but oir reactions. Change yours and see how it goes.
If all still same, you now say that you might breakup or so.. and when you say something even as small or tiny. Exactly do so, not less not more. If it goes fine, then sure. If not, go invest in average women of which: "There's nothing truer than, if you give a woman love 1 time.. she gives it back 10 times".

[Asker]

Yeah she was always hitting me calling me names such as bitch, stupid motherfucker, nuisance

[Opinion Owner]

Sounds like someone with negative childhood issues still stuck with her and not changing.

[Nikki1989]

Some individuals use threats of breaking up to manipulate their partner and gain control.

[Ms_Facesitter]

It's common when people aren't compatible and don't work together.

[Asker]

So to assess compatibility wouldn’t both people have to try to get to that point for it to be determined they weren’t compatible

[Ms_Facesitter]

There are times that something new is discovered about the partner that becomes a deal breaker and is harmful and if, after trying to communicate the issue without a response, you tell him that breaking up is on the table, I think that's normal.
But to threaten with break up with every little fight, that's a red flag. That's just manipulation. People who are compatible will won't bark at each other but will instead work together to find a solution.

[Asker]

Yeah when she couldn’t get her way she would say things like I don’t know if I can have this in my future or there would be actual threats of breaking up

[Ms_Facesitter]

Exactly.

[In_Trance]

As soon as something like that is said it should be an immediate relationship termination

[jahaims]

That's an unhealthy relationship

[Asker]

Yeah she would also hit me call me names such as stupid motherfucker, bitch, nuisance

[sirderpsalot123]

It's probably common but it shouldn't be

[Asker]

Yeah it completely messed me up i honestly wouldn’t have wanted a relationship to experience this