My first relationship just ended and I feel lost. How do you deal with the emotional/physical lack of connection with someone you love?

[Anonymous]

We still love each other too much, but he has said and done a lot which hurt me, and he won't accept a few I will be doing, he doesn't see that in his future wife. Anyway we miss each other already. My question: How do you deal with the need to be hugged, kissed and stuff by someone you love deeply?
I'm 21.

[Summeroflove]

Allow yourself to grieve I think you know it’s for the best but you loved and cared about him you’re not a dark personality with a cold heart who can just dump someone never looking back.

Now once you grieved this relationship then you can look bad and see how miserable it really was and you’ll wonder why you even stayed. But it’s hard when you put so much effort into a relationship as well as care for someone it takes time. You’re going to feel sad, depressed, and angry. It may not be easy to face but you’ll get through it then eventually forgive. Not to take him back but feel sorry for him but not sorry as to enable him again. You’ll just move on and eventually find someone else or find peace being along.

The next thing is think rationally many people go on the rebound and get into a relationship much worse then the last trying to make someone jealous, to get over someone, or to use someone as a crutch. Don’t do that don’t go there. Until you truly feel ready and attracted to someone else.

I know it’s hard loosing that affection but some people really do get themselves into a much worse relationship. Just remember you’re better off single in peace rhen miservale.

[Asker]

Hé keeps saying he loves me, but just doesn’t see me as his future wife because I want the same things he wants to do

[Summeroflove]

Well…. Then irs a dead end.

[Summeroflove]

Let’s decode a narcissist I can’t read his mind but….. let me string this person along until I find better. But if I don’t find better I have someone

[BiHubbyFlor]

Family friends doing things you love. Heart break is awful almost got engaged just for my ex to tell me that she has no plans with me in them. No future together

Took a year and a half before I even thought about dating. My wife found me and was a great friend through it.

Someone better is out there for you. It's another chapter unfolding but a painful one.

Turns out my ex now has 4 baby daddy's and 5 kids and is barely making rent for herself.

[bunny_luv]

honey i would just go ahead and do the things you want to do. it will build your confidence. i traveled after my first break up (went to another country for a couple of months) and when i returned i felt so much more confident in myself. hope this helps.

[dudeinohio]

There will be more relationships in your future. It is all a process. Everyone goes through several in their lives. When you're ready, date again.

[jahaims]

That's why you make sure you are compatible prior to emotionally investing

[Lilylove23]

I have a heartbreake too🤕😔

[Asker]

Awh stay strong ☹️🥹