2 years ago my ex and I separated and this was a shock to me because I thought we loved each other, I was even planning on marriage some day. We lost our virginity together and experienced the world from late teens to early 20s. Then when she found out I needed to move to another state for college she broke up with me, no tears, no struggle to make things work, just... gone. this was a shock to me because even though I was broke and struggling with some things so was she, and we shared so many happy memories like picnics and going to amusement parks, and I would have died for her if I needed to. Then just 3 months after we broke up I found out she was already dating another guy and had moved on. So I guess to specify my questions, how is it so easy for people to move on and forget love, and how do I learn to love again without being afraid of her losing love for me like the first girl? All advice is appreciated.
How do you cope with love loss and not being enough?
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sorry but young relationships just don't last. you had have seen this coming if out of state college was involved. i've seen this happen a lot once kids in relationships reach college age. plus when you two haven't even experienced the world or what other people have to offer, it's fair for her to say bye. i know that's not what you want to hear but you two are both really young, life happens.
also, don't ever say you would have died for her. she is not your family or your wife. that's a bit dramatic. don't ever make someone your entire world because they can leave you in an instant and then you'll have issues with yourself because you always relied on that person and were never independent.
as for her moving on so fast, maybe she was already checking out of the relationship.
anyways, i really truly am sorry for your breakup. i know it may not seem like it because i'm blunt but it's the truth. you will heal from this in time. just focus on your studies. you'll find someone who will put the same effort into the relationship as you do. don't give up.
You can go to a psychologist. They can help you become the best version of yourself but don't think it will be a fast fix, it takes time.
Happened to me recently and my depression came and it came back harder than ever, so I am seeing a psychologist and will start seeing a psychiatrist too, so I can get medicine.
If she moved on that fast she is either in a rebound relationship or she just didn't love you like you loved her.
I feel like she was just using you for the ride.. for company.. until you moved away for college. I’d break up with you too. You’re young..
Yeah, I guess I just thought things could be different. Honestly I don't think love is real anymore so I'll just stay single and have hookups.