Why do a lot of people assume every divorce ends on bad terms?

[Finchie40]

My ex wife and I are still on good terms with each other , we both mutually agreed we are better off not being together and better off staying friends for the kids’ sake, our kids are adults now so we decided to part ways because we no longer see eye to eye on things but we don’t hate each other , Not everyone that gets a divorce or goes through a break up , hates each other , look at Bruce Willis and Demi Moore , they stayed friends’ and mutual for the kids’ sake , Demi Moore then ended up with Ashton Kutcher and Bruce and Demi were still friends’ , My wife and I pretty much did the same thing. We tried making it work one last time but realized it’s not going to happen , We just want different things , she claims she wants to be single and travel with her friends’ As for me , I don’t really want to be single but I am not rushing into another relationship, but I been open to dating again. My ex moved in with her brother and we been living apart , we still see each other from time to time , we don’t make out or have sex anymore , we agreed it’s best we don’t anymore. So just recently I been open to dating again and meeting someone , I realized I don’t really like being single anymore, it was fun for a little while but I like having a girl by my side , hoping to find true love

[Blueeyes81]

I've seen people still in love but not compatible get divorced. Life is complicated in so many ways that love isn't always enough. I think those that hate each other got married for the wrong reasons. Either hoping the other would change or not wanting to be alone, social pressure, etc.

[Finchie40]

That was my ex and I , we still love each other , but we realized we are no longer compatible, because we started butting heads and no longer seeing eye to eye on things , to the point the only choice we really had was to go our separate ways and try to stay friends for the kids’ sake , even though our kids’ are older now , we still want to be friends’ for future events etc.. It hurt to see her go when we finally agreed to part ways , I will always love her but the truth is we were both unhappy most the time towards the end She claims there is no one else and that she has no desire to be with anyone else , she said she just wants to be happy without arguing all the time. I agreed with her , even though I was hurt inside , I thought her and I would be together forever , but you can’t force someone to love you and to stay with you , and you can’t force someone to change for you , She wanted me to change and I thought to myself change what? I am still the same guy you met 25 years ago , how do you expect me to change? I realized that was just her excuse to distance herself from me , the only person that changed was her.

[serious]

Well, I understand. The reason people assume or think like that is because in many cases divorce only happens if a marriage is bad or has been bad from a long time and so divorce is generally not seen as a good thing.

As for you hoping to find true love, I wish you best of luck with that.

[lyrem04]

I think because if the marriage ends then something must’ve gone wrong, it can’t be all positive and at the same time people aren’t happy with each-other anymore out of nowhere to the point of divorce

[Nikki1989]

They don't. Some divorces need to happen.

I knew a man many years ago whose divorce cost him half-a-million dollars, and he often said it was worth every penny.

[Finchie40]

I believe it lol , My ex and I agreed it was best we part ways , we both weren’t happy , we we’re constantly butting heads and not agreeing on things , we came to a crossroads in our marriage that we couldn’t fix fix , so instead of hating each other we agreed to go our separate ways so we both can find our happiness , I’m not saying divorce is easy , it’s definitely sad that her and I couldn’t work things out , but it is what it is , we can’t force each other to be on the same page with each other , we both want different things so we agreed it’s best we go our separate ways. Why stay on a marriage where you both are unhappy?

[Nikki1989]

Divorces can be rough, but no pain, no gain as the saying goes.

[DryGermanGuy]

Because that's usually the scenario that happens. Because why even divorce otherwise? It's probably another adaption for the 80/20 principle.

[Anonymous]

They don't. I'm aware of marriages that ended on good terms. But let's face it, in most divorces there were problems that led to the decision by one or both partners, and more often than not there are bad feelings that linger on indefinitely.

[Godihateyou]

Because divorce it the only thing that becomes less affordable the more you have. At 43 I'd really really really really have to hate a bitch to lose half.

[rebelkid]

In my opinion it is because couples whom encounter bitter divorces waste no time bashing each other to their friends and/or families. So for some reason the bitter divorces run fast like a forest fire. However, whenever the divorce is civil and without any huge animosity, the public buried it.

[NicholasRedone]

@Finchie40 even I, a single man, like to think the worst : often evil comedy - aka "wedding crashers movie 2005 ; the arguing couple"

[NicholasRedone]

The insults, the comedy, it's like "I'm so glad I'm through with that lying, cheating, no good so and so" and that's the woman talking about a man lol 😂 not the movie the movie goes very deep with insults ahahahaha

[Sal_Monella]

Disproportionately most do. Marital vows were broken.

[chrissykerdock]

because a marriage is ending is it ever good

[NicholasRedone]

@chrissykerdock Shaggy sang it best 🎵🎶

[Aiko_E_Lara]

I don't assume generally speaking, it ends in bad terms. That's like the default result of what would happen during a divorce. That's like asking why people assume if someone gets shot, he's dead.

[Lottydotty]

Nah I know its just lack luster has fallen amongst lovers sometimes and friends were all they were meant for. Or whatever.

[In_Trance]

Usually the division of assets is where the trouble starts

[OldBlu]

Because this site is proof that almost all people are stupid.

[Babebytheshore85]

Because divorces aren't looked at as positive

[NicholasRedone]

@babebytheshore85 Shaggy made it sound better in his song where he admitted "he was banging the woman next door" - some people just want to be found out for cheating lol "but I'm happier now I've left my ex behind me, 50 percent assets lighter" lol 😆

[NicholasRedone]

@babebytheshore85 in the fictional Shaggy -

[DCVsMarvel2]

Not every one does, but, most do