It's actually quite simple to be honest. I had a friend ask me this question and explained it to them and they told me it actually sounds logical so imma say it.
People. Have. No. Chill... Or patience.
A lot of people who divorce, are divorcing for the reasons in the picture.
They marry too fast without truly knowing theor partner, and they get mad really fast. Once they are mad, they are usually like "this relationship can't be fixed anymore" or "you are not whom you used to be"... They want that "picture perfect" life (i should have thrown impossible in there too to be honest) and they want it fast.
If anyone thinks that what I'm saying is overblown and out of proportion, then please go and talk to elderly people. Most of them were married with a single person their WHOLE LIFE. And what if the other died, you ask? Well then they'd stay alone, why? Because they truly loved the other and want no other.
Love is (in my opinion) loving the other for their perfections AND imperfections.
I'll admit I've never had a girlfriend before... I guess girls these days aren't too much into a loyal, funny (atleast i'm told i am), hard working (it engineer) guy... BUT I DO KNOW that if I'd marry someone, it would be after years and years of knowing her AND i'd di anything in my power to make it last as long as possible (preferably forever)
People don't take the time to really get to know a person before getting married. It takes a long time to really know someone. People are too into shallow issues, and not enough into finding the the types of character in a person, that it takes to make a marriage work.
I would agree with this happening except usually it’s the women who get screwed in the end. They are the ones who lose more because if the man runs off with the new girlfriend, the woman gets left behind with the kid/s, house payment, rest of bills.. etc... while the man and his new girlfriend get a new life with a new house and money obviously coz they have no responsibilities
I'm not a History major or something, but as far as I know, back then divorce was much more looked down upon than cheating. So I think people cheated more back then than nowadays, but they hid it better and didn't divorce.
I think it's because it doesn't mean anything anymore. Marriage is still a commitment, sure, but it's not the end-all-be-all that it used to be. Even if it's just in the back of their minds, everyone knows that if they really wanted to, you could part ways. So people are far more likely to take the leap than they would if the leap meant spending the rest of your life together whether you liked them 30 years from now or not. The care and process that went in to selecting a partner for marriage is gone - sex is just another commodity.
I think the difference between marriages that end in divorce and marriages that end when death do them part is this: Everyone says "for better or for worse, for richer or poorer" in their wedding vows, but not everyone means it.
It's built on a flawed system. The idea that once you are married, you will never have feelings for, or want to be intimate with others is unrealistic and toxic. You will want to be with others in some way, so will your partner in some way. Lying to yourself and your partner about completly understandable thoughts and feelings creates tension. It sinks into other aspects of life. If you can't be honest about your desires or needs then the connection is bound to fall apart over to time. Forcing monogamy also causes those who recognize feelings for others feel guilty or shameful. Like they feel they should only have feelings for their spouse. It's okay to feel for others, it's okay to connect as well. The idea that if your genitals touch someone else's besides your spouse that the marriage, years together and love are all broken is absurd and harmful.
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The family used to come first in earlier days. If you had a problem with your parents, you always compromised. Now they just shout back and leave the house. Same goes with marriage. Now a days its all about you, which I'm not saying is wrong. But it is. Your happiness. Your desires. Nobody cares about how it will impact the families the friends and most importantly the kids. Divorce, in totality, is the opposite for productive, for society. But again divorce is necessary cz if its a toxic relationship, then the productivity of individuals in the couple gets affected. A unhappy mother or father won't raise as productive children as happy and separated. Divorce is a necessary evil. It sucks. But thats the way it is. Only thing we can do is try to keep it as clean as possible. And no divorce is common due to the economical setup of the society. Not because of social media. Hell no!
I think divorce is so common because people get married nowadays all the wrong reasons. I think if you get married it should be because you love that person enough to want to spend the rest of your life with them but people nowadays get married out of convenience or because the sex is great and that's why it doesn't last.
Because love (attraction?) fades because of physiology and people realize they must live together, cope with problems and do important things together which needs much more than initial attraction. People cannot handle each other so that how it happens often
Actually divorce rates have been going down again for the past decade. There was a big spike around the 90's and 00's because only then it became more clear to society that you didn't have to stay in a shitty marriage, while in the past people usually stayed married because they were afraid of how people would react if they divorced. Things are actually stabilizing now and divorce rates are going down
That's why we have to eliminate alimony and make child support more flexible and reasonable. Also, if property isn't joint, then it shouldn't be divided.
Because people forget that marriage is a day to day struggle in both male and female and people forget that a relationship is not always 50/50 sometimes you have to put 60,70
Before hospitals all women died in childbirth, so no marriage had to last long, now women are living longer men have more time to grow sick of the sight of them.
I think that taking people for granted has a major role. Plus... Most people want easy breazy relationship and marriage. A relationship is hard, but highly rewarding.
Yes. It plays a huge role. That and "anything goes" morality is now relative its essier for them to justify just cheating whereas cheating used to be thought of as just unthinkable.
Social media can be partly to blame but the bigger problem is people not knowing the given take required to maintain a relationship especially even in the case of a marriage
Because people aren't realistic about what marriage is and people upsell themselves. It's A LOT of work. Especially with kids. It's not for everyone. For real!
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Its more disloyal white women than social medias fault.. Even I accidentally cucked a mans white wife.
It is mostly because of high promiscuity quotient in today's generation. The promiscuity quotient is generally been increasing because of high influence of social media, porn etc
Feel free to correct me if you want but why divorce is common in Japan is because men have more equal power to women when dating. Compared to other countries where women have the power.
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