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Thoughts on why the Divorce rate is so high?

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Thoughts on why the Divorce rate is so high?

Thoughts on why the Divorce rate is so high?

Thoughts on why the Divorce rate is so high?

Thoughts on why the Divorce rate is so high?

Thoughts on why the Divorce rate is so high?

Thoughts on why the Divorce rate is so high?

Thoughts on why the Divorce rate is so high?

Thoughts on why the Divorce rate is so high?
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  • jayden888
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    1. Divorce settlements should stop favoring women blindly.

    2. All roles should be shared in relationships fairly. If I don't cook, I do the dishes, if she doesn't work, she does a greater share of the house work. But both parents should be there for all the kids.

    3. Using sympathy tactics should be frowned upon in society. Women use it way more, because clearly even if a guy did it, he would become a laughing stock. Important point is when a girl does it, don't sympathize without knowing the whole truth.

    4. Don't marry someone until you've understood how a confrontation with them on an intimate matter feels like - fun times can be enjoyed with even strangers you share interests with or with someone you are attracted to, but the nature of conflict and how conflict is resolved in the relationship is a major factor determining how long it will stay.

    5. Note your energies together - do you bring out the best in your partner and vice versa? If yes, that's good. If no, that's not. In evaluation of this, things like how ambitious each of you are, how much success gets to your head, how much shame each of you feel in a bad situation etc are important things to evaluate.

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  • OlderAndWiser u
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    Our society teaches us that if something isn't working, it is cheaper to replace it than try to repair it. Unfortunately, people carry that attitude into their marriage and they divorce at the first sign of problems. Young people see that many marriages don't last and they think there is something wrong with marriage, instead of realizing there is something wrong with people who don't stay and work on the problems in their marriage.

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    • Damiankane
      Damiankane
      +1 y

      Yes yes my thoughts exactly especially the once broken replace it mentality

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    • Gorge95
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      👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

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  • smg99
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    Xper 7 Age: 39 , mho 34%
    +1 y

    The stories have deeper meaning and of incidents both parties are responsible for.
    We never know unless we walk a mile in each couples’ marriage so we can’t generalize.
    If men hate women that much and we are painted as devils’ spawn why bother wondering how women feel, think or base their opinions on men or for dating or such?
    It’s obvious that good women are painted as gold diggers and of surmount issues.
    Well who is pristine?

    What about the unfolding of their lives’ it’s events, men like Bezos who actually did cheat plus the many actors who apart from performing acts as a requirement of roles cast, go on to actually having affairs after set hours?

    Many of these scenarios, the women would be out of the work force and post divorce keep a reserve amount to re enter.
    It works both ways just not one.
    It’s equal distribution of mental health issues or inflicted trauma over time.
    Incidentally it’s inaccurate to represent a marriage as solely a woman’s way to reap money.

    I never knew the ways of the world will never evolve. Sadly it’s very regressive not progressive.

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  • Britantic
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    I think its because people want the wedding but dont think about ths marraige. Like so many couples spend a decade working and saving to pay for one big day that the wedding is an anti climax they've put themselves in massive debt and begin to resent each other. It's mostly women who instigate divorce rather than tough out the hard times, we lie to ourselves thst some other great guy out there wants us and will take on our kids of course we take advice from other women who intentionally give bad advice.

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  • jennifer_bloom
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    503 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

    Are you blaming Jeff Bezo's wife? It was Jeff Bezo's desire to divorce and his wife was nice - she wanted less than 30% of his earnings when she was allowed to take half.

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    • White-American89
      White-American89
      +1 y

      It's a meme don't take it so personally. Like fuck Jeff Bezo's and his wife lol

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    • HottHead
      HottHead
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      Yeah ONLY 30% of 140 billion so generous of her.

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    • AynonOMouse
      AynonOMouse
      +1 y

      "Of HIS earnings"
      lol right there shows she is a thief. I don't know who either of them are, but anyone taking someone else's earnings shows they are a real scumbag.

      That is like saying they only robbed someone of his car when they could have robbed him of his house too. Oh, what a good person. lol

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    • Dan_Druff
      Dan_Druff
      +1 y

      There was this celebrity couple and the guy was allowed to take half from his ex-wife and he didn’t take any money from her. I have never once in my life heard of a woman not take money from a divorce. Unfortunately many women are money hungry thots, that think buying expensive purses and jewelry gives them happiness.

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  • kali_hacker
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    Wow!

    Hey there's some truth in that. I'm not MGTOW by stance but I seem to be that by default maybe because of my standards or maybe just because I'm awkward or something but there's some truth in what you say maybe. But I know a happy life is often with a nuclear and an extended family. So here's the deal- I like Dave Ramsey and I heard him talk once about how the divorce rate is not actually 50%. There's a whole science for how they come up with figures because it's not all obvious how they would extract that but apparently it's not and has never been 50%, and there are risk factors you can reduce to reduce the chance of divorce drastically, such as being rich (haha jk, just checking). No, you can google it, but like sharing values, attending a religious institution (I'm agnostic/not religious but still support the idea). Anyway this helped me question long held acquired beliefs. It's still too high, the courts are still too stacked, it's still mega scary but there's not as much cause for pessimism or fear as has been entertained I guess. There is more room for honest optimism, both in terms of true stats as well as if one consciously identifies and manages the risk factors. Also yeah marrying the right girl helps, and marrying a girl who has had fewer partners so she can bond better and so she is likely to already be of a certain type.

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  • aannddrreeaa
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    I think it's because there's a lot of pressure for both genders to get married and have a family. From our parents and grandparents generations, they didn't really date around as we do now; they had to get married and start a family because it was expected of them and they couldn't do a lot about it without causing drama.
    I think people nowadays have a lot more freedom from society. You can have 3 wives or you can have 0 and be a bachelor all your life. You can get married, have kids, live the white-picket-fence life or you can focus on your hobbies, school, etc because there's a lot more opportunity to do so.

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  • Liam_Hayden
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    In the old days the marriage contract was considered binding and you needed an actual reason other than, "I changed my mind" to divorce. Now no-fault makes it too easy.

    Also in the past if the cause was adultery, the cheater got royally screwed in a divorce. The innocent party was usually given custody of the kids, the house, and most of the assets. Now the cheater, male or female, can file against the innocent spouse, still get half of everything, and if the innocent spouse is the primary earner that person gets screwed over when he/she was not the one who violated the contract.

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  • xkildy
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    Xper 7 Age: 40 , mho 42%
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    Omg, I love the comic. its states the very obvious truth. You can work hard trying to make a living for those around you that you love. How about this instead of the some or partner waiting for him to get home late how about you go there help him feel like all this over time is worth it. Go there and bring him his dinner or go there take him out for a small bite let his brain recharge then he can finish his work in peace and not worry about so much of the time he is wasting. No, the spouse doesn't see to think that way. They just sit there wanting to spend time with there partner exempting him to be about to magical finish his work on time every day. Geeeezzz makes an effort to keep the marriage strong by helping. 50/50 means once you have someone in your life your sharing it (your life) so changes happen to cause your living for 2 now. People forget that it's hard to keep it all up by yourself daily.

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  • hellionthesagereborn
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    Well their is some truth to this, however I will point out that Jeff Bezos cheated so I think that is absolutely grounds for divorce (I sure as hell wouldn't be with some one who cheated on me). However I think that their are several factors from the encouragement of promiscuity which damages the persons ability to be in a relationship (based upon many studies on the subject), their insistence that men are replacable (because no one would ever suggest that of women, only men), the general apathy to out right misandry towards men justifying their abuse, mistreatment, exploitation and the blaming of them for things that may not actually be their fault. Also hormonal birth control affects women by reducing their empathy with men, making them attracted to the wrong men, reduced sexual attraction in general etc.(which of course should be a no brainer, if steroids are bad for men why would doing the same thing for women be good?).

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  • Anonymous
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    2 reasons. 1. Monogamy is unnatural and the idea of staying committed to one person forever is beyond absurd. 2. Most women are evil and not really looking for love. They are instead just looking to manipulate men, show off for social media, and spite real women who actually want to be with the men they are with. Some are so shady, that they'd use mind control to make other women fall for a man that is giving THEM all his attention simply because they like seeing a real woman who needs love not getting it. That has happened to me a number of times.

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    • UnicornLobotomy
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      Men have always been possessive of their wives (multiple wives by a man is the only "natural" thing) one reason is that men would much rather raise their own sons than some other man's and to know this means monogamy on the woman's part. Patriarchy is nature's default simply out of necessity for women to be provided and cared for during pregnancy and due to the fact humans are sexually dimorphic. Women were property due to this reason in over 90% of all cultures, historically.

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  • JudgmentDay
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    Too many marriages lead to higher possibility of divorces and higher frequency of divorces. If the less people marry then the lower the possibility of divorce and the less frequent divorces can occur or happen.

    People should realize that this is something where "Your mileage may vary" and thus, marry at your own risk. There's ALWAYS that possibility of divorce in the future because it's unpredictable and not set in stone.

    Marriage ABSOLUTELY DOES NOT GUARANTEE "happiness" and/or "fulfillment" in any form or way.

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  • UnicornLobotomy
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    I'm officially done dating. One chick would cheat on her boyfriend with me, I started feeling guilty and disgusting. Once I was married for four years and I had to stay together with her and let her move in, pretend to have a relationship just so I could see my kids because she never brought them back when it was my turn with them as per the custody arrangement, I figured I'd try to make it work, eventually she finally left for good taking my kids with her and I'm still in family court fighting for them. I was used simply for company once, just like I was used for cash once. I have been stood up or cat fished by women on dating sites, they lie about their body type and have older or doctored up pictures. I started asking women out in person... they end up still being in a "complicated" relationship or married. Being good enough to fuck but not date isn't as nice as other guys might tell you it is.

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  • DanishSaint
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    To highlight one thing, which naturally hardly provides a solid foundation for concluding anything, but I am inclined to say society today. Core values such as family, loyalty and so on are not in style any more. The world is a maze of endless opportunities and so is relations. I think people simply give up to quick today - or let me refrase, since I am not capable of saying whether people are wrong or right in divorcing, but I think it has gotten too easy. If one thing doesn't work in our home, electronics for instance, throw it out and replace it... I think the concept is similar.

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  • TheFlak38
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    Women have no fear for repercussions. Marriage is just legal slavery for men. It DOESN'T WORK!
    When she can fuck a million men and choose the richest nice guy to get married and then dump him so he is forced by the state to work for her shopping habits and bills why would a woman refuse all these privileges and freedom to stay faithful and loyal to a man? If women had things 100% their way they would literally enslave men and force them to hand over all of their hard-earned money because this is the way to fight "toxic masculinity". When me and my brother were already in our 20's taking our own path in life my mother was still complaining in the divorce court that she has "two kids to raise" to get even more benefits for as long as she could. It took her 15 years to admit defeat and finally sign the divorce papers because she wanted to have it all and destroy my father completely.

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  • bamesjond0069
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    Its because men marry non marriageable women. And women marry non marriageable men. Its that simple. You can say what you want about religion but God tells us what it means to make the best marriages. You can be atheist all you want but those same requirements and ideals are still what it takes to make the best marriages. Too many people threw that all out the window and modern marriage does not work.

    Men must be strong capable leaders who put family first. Women must take a feminine support role and submit to the husbands leadership. Neither should sleep around much if at all, especially women. This is the only way marriage works. Otherwise its a complete shit show.

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    • Shutupman
      Shutupman
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      Incorrect.

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    • bamesjond0069
      bamesjond0069
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      @Shutupman oh yeah open marriages or those with women as bread winners, or dual income no children... something like that works better hmmm? No. No it does not.

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    • Shutupman
      Shutupman
      +1 y

      Everybody is different. There isn’t one foolproof solution for a happy loving marriage.

      What you are talking about it simply procreation within a family. People broke free from those strict rules for a reason. They did not work. People still cheated, had kids somewhere else or simply did not love one another but stayed together because there was no other way or it was socially unacceptable.

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    • bamesjond0069
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      @Shutupman marriage is creation of a family unit. One person is not a family. Marriage without kids is not really marriage. How is it any different than just a relationship?

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  • someginger
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    It use to be you either couldn't get divorced or it was very socially looked down upon, but people can get divorced now whenever they want but the social pressure to get married is still there. It isn't stick with each other even thought it makes you unhappy its do what ever makes you happy

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  • akvalleygirl
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    Social Media Divorce Statistics
    Online affairs cause one-third of divorces.
    Facebook is the cause for twenty-five percent of couples to fight at least once every seven days.
    The social media activity of their partner has caused at least one in seven married people to contemplate divorce.
    Twenty percent of people feel unease in their relationship when they find something unsettling on the Facebook account of their partner.

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  • Cammy137
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    Because people view marriage as being this special, even sacred step that completely changes the nature of a relationship. When in reality, nothing changes beyond titles and a few legal documents.

    I think people also realise that relationships don't always work out. A divorce is just a breakup but with more steps. Provided children aren't in the picture and legal safeguards were taken, divorce really isn't a big deal, especially when its mutual.

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  • BCA6010
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    Almost every divorce involving somebody I knew well happened because they rushed into the marriage while the truth is they weren't very good for each other as dates, let alone living together or starting a family.

    My advice to everyone of all backgrounds, races, and both sexes is to not get married or have kids before 25 years of age. Up until at least that point, your values and even personality will change.

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  • markscott
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    376 opinions shared on Break Up & Divorce topic.

    The divorce rate is so high, because we tend to make poor choices about who we marry, and we tend to expect more from marriage or relationships than is reasonable. Also, too many people jump ship when things get rough, rather than trying to work it out. Of course, sometimes, there is nothing esle to do, than get a divorce, because the situation is so bad.

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  • MackToday
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    Believing bull shit like cultural Marxism and not understanding the real nature of traditional beliefs and how they connect us to nature and guide us in life. People take those old books literally and not metaphorically as they were intended. They are actually full of symbolism not literal events and written for people much less educated than we are today. People forget and bad things happen.

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  • Thatsamazing
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    Because forever-sexual-monogamy is boring as fuck and not what humans (especially guys) are naturally supposed to do? So people get bored of their partner eventually and want to try other people? Which if they'd been doing the whole time, like they should have, wouldn't break them up?

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    • Gorge95
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      Read the book “Sex at Dawn” and there’s tons of evidence that monogamy is unnatural for both sexes (yes both).

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  • wankiam
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    quick fact check... the marriage figures ar lower than ever before and at the same time those who do marry are less likely to divorce... ergo divorce rates are actually lower than previous generations

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    • UnicornLobotomy
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      ... and fatherless kids are at an all time high, men aren't getting married as often... women are getting married as often so per-capita - the divorce rates are higher... if only you understood what per-capita means... so less people marry so of course there is less divorces BUT the divorce rate is higher, and guess who gets half of everything PLUS the kids even if she initiates the divorce and cheats before she even initiates it? she does

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    • wankiam
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      @UnicornLobotomy i do understand exactly what per capita means and thats why i fact checked you because recent research goes against what you are saying. im not so sure you understand percentages or the report you are working off is out of date. i will just clarify. whilst marriage is a dying thing those that do marry are less likely to divorce than previous generations... also if the kids stay with dad and mom has all the money then he gets half too so again, i can see where you are trying to go with this but simple facts are not backing up you traditional view

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    • UnicornLobotomy
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      Tradcucks are bleating out rhetoric like you there bud, the courts are extremely biased against fathers, there are little loopholes and tricks specifically for women and mothers, its just a matter of how low the mom wants to go bud. I was witness to it myself and many other men have seen it first hand. VAWA had states adopt many of these laws and loop holes, and there's the Duluth model, there isn't enough room on in this little text box, you have no clue what are talking about bud.

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    • wankiam
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      +1 y

      @UnicornLobotomy facts not rhetoric but seeing as you have no evidence for your side of the debate and wish to resort to insult i will put you on my list of askhole users and bid you farewell... rant on if you like but im hitting mute. as the old addage goes, you can't argue with a prick

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    • White-American89
      White-American89
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      Question is the percentage of divorces down or just the numbers?

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