What is driving the divorce rate?

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I feel like people anticipate and plan for divorce more than they plan for a lifetime of marriage. Why aren’t people more careful about who they marry? Lots of people talk about their plans to protect themselves, but never their plans to protect their spouse in case of death. Why so much mistrust?

RavVid · Accepted Answer

Mistrust is justified. The median length of marriage is 8 years and most of divorces are unilateral declared by the wife. With no fault divorce, the non divorcing partner i. e. husband has no say.

Most divorces involve two children and eight years is about the time it takes to pump out two babies and get both into elementary school.

That seems suspiciously like that once the kiddies are in school, with it's inherent child minding, then the wife decides the husband is superfluous and it is not more complicated than that.

The wife will customarily get the house in her name and at least child support payments from ex husband and possibly alimony. It is quite a good deal.

Some suggest ending no fault divorce would solve the divorce rate. I doubt it. It is pretty easy to make a marriage untenable and force divorce by cheating.

There were social and legal penalties for cheating but we can't pretend they exist today. There is no inhibition

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Sadly because people have become very selfish these days and that’s why so many marriages and relationships our ending , Most people think grass is greener on the other side instead of just watering the grass they are already standing on , people tend to think they are missing out on things , when really they aren’t missing out on shit , I blame social media for playing a big part of impacting the way people think , feeding our heads with nonsense making people think they deserve better than what they already have , comparing their lives to others’ Most people no longer fix what is broken in a relationship , they point fingers instead and run to someone else thinking that someone else will take care of them. Selfishness is one of the biggest relationship killers

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It seems like people just don't take marriage as seriously anymore, and divorce has just become an easy out when the honeymoon phase is over.

Vows are no longer sacred commitments like they used to be.

I also think the government and courts are doing things that encourage divorce, at least for women (which is sad).

My brother got divorced (not his choice) last year. She literally pulled the rug out from under him and his life is a mess now. She lied about some things in court and as a result he has very limited visitation rights to his son now. It a sad situation.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

Folks who get married too soon and for the wrong reasons. Duh…

AviatorTom · Answer

There's an old joke. Q: What causes divorce? A: Marriage Being more serious, the divorce rate increased with the feminist movement. Draw your own conclusions.

normalice · Answer

I think young people have high ambitions and hopes for each other. And when reality sets in the erosion of spirit (removing a lot of fluff or causing destruction of the soul as it clinged to that fluff) reveals two completely different people. I believe this is partially due to the insistence on abstinence before marraige. Young people want to fuck. Making them get married first results in a marriage that only happened because young people wanna fuck. When they don't really want to fuck anymore that missing fluff is going to get noticed.

Snakeyes7 · Answer

It's because there doesn't need to be a fault for divorce and even if there is one, it is not done via innocent until proven guilty.

Prenuptial agreements are also useless becuase the spouse that wants the divorce can easily nullify it by saying that it was signed under duress.

When we have this poorly made system, what good is marriage anymore? It might as well be a long term relationship with a fancy label and a far more punishing for the spouse that did nothing to deserve it rather than the one who left for reasons that could be as retarded as boredom.

BCRanger10 · Answer

A lot of things. On a practical level, because it's so easy to get a divorce. There are plenty of other factors as well. Pornography, birth control, feminism, sex being prioritized wrongly, selfishness, poor formation as individuals and as a couple, poor examples from parents, seeing marriage as something you "transition" into rather than consciously and freely choosing... there's a lot. How much time do you have?

Anonymous · Answer

I agree. And this is why I'll likely never marry. First off at my age, we're not raising a family anymore. And that's half the reason a couple gets married. But because I know how rare today it is for a woman to mean FOREVER when she says "I DO."

I think society drives and it's morals (or lack thereof) drives the divorce rate. I think in the past people stayed in unhealthy marriages because to get divorced was shameful. I mean this is a good thing that people don't have to feel humiliation to leave a bad marriage now. But the problem is we've went the other way with it. Now people will hit the eject button at the drop of a hat.

Angelo75 · Answer

Well the "entitled" generation.

Everybody nowadays are thinking what they "deserve" and what they can "get" out of a relationship instead of what they can "give" in a relationship.

And then they all go wonder why relationships aren't succeeding.

BetaBucks · Answer

Lack of masculinity, which leads to a lack of femininity.

blueonblack22 · Answer

Mostly women following their short term impulses given what’s happening to our society.  Men are guilty of this too occasionally. But women file for divorce more then twice as often as men.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

It's easy to divorce and incentivized for women to do.

Also men marry women they're not compatible with because they get caught up in premarital sex.

I will have a prenup no matter what when I do marry even as a Catholic. Too many horror stories to lose what I've earned and what my family has to someone else's greed.

nawtee_me · Answer

Because you can nit give what you don’t have and you can not teach what you don’t know. How can you teach commitment when you are on your second wife or third husband? How can you teach commitment to your kids when you have never been married? How can you teach your sons to be good dads when you have never been in your kids life….

Twalli · Answer

Most people go into marriage too quickly. Proposal at the end of The Bachelor/Bachelorette. Marriage at the end of Love is Blind, etc. My girlfriend and I are celebrating our 6 ear anniversary of becoming a couple this Saturday. I am proposing then. 6 years before proposing. I took my time. If we got married I saw her as being the one I die with. So I took my time. That's my protection. Waiting long enough to ensure we're close enough that divorce is extremely unlikely.

LordMadara · Answer

this is why the current system granted women the veto powers to make unilateral decisions 😂😂😂

we are destroying the family unit

that was always on the agenda since the weirmar republic in Germany 😂

Anonymous · Answer

You summed it up well in your first sentence. Half of marriages end in divorce, women file 80% of them, and studies show lack of commitment is the #1 reason for divorce. That's a very poor reflection on today's women.

The high divorce rate is being driven by the facts that today's women have no sense of commitment, and the legal system incentives women to divorce. Divorce helps women and hurts men. That's it in a nutshell.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

People getting married WAY before their ready and, mostly, for stupid reasons!!

DarkLegacy · Answer

Feminism and women marrying for the wrong reasons which is also down to feminism. Plus a lot of women are marrying as a financial incentive these days which is also down to feminism. Feminism is bad for society.

Anonymous · Answer

Women treating marriage like its something she can wipe her ass with and flush down the toilet, rather than a partnership where you stick together and work out your issues. Source.. 80%of all divorces are initiated by women, and not for reasons of abuse or infidelity.

To answer your question one need only look in the mirror at your own gender.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Thankfully the rate of divorce has been trending down for the last 30 years in the USA.

Anonymous · Answer

A society driven by a me me attitude coupled with a complete lack of support for the institution.

msc545 · Answer

What drives the divorce rate is the fact that women have realized they are heavily favored in courts, and they can make MONEY by getting divorced and also garner a great deal of sympathy by becoming "victims".

HawkPerception · Answer

Modern feminism, technology, social media and dating apps, being able to work from home, the gender war... you name it.

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Marriage is driving the divorce rate so if you don’t get married problem solved.

LiamJHayden · Answer

No-fault divorce. Under No-fault, the cheating spouse still gets half plus potentially alimony. Why sign a contract when there is no penalty for violating it?

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Women are driving the divorce rate. Don't believe me? Let's factor men out of the equation. Lesbian marriages have over a 75% divorce rate. Gay men married? The divorce rate is 25%.

Women are the problem, not men.

Kelley1 · Answer

Laws and family court ruling that reward women when they divorce their husbands.

Massageman · Answer

Living in a throw-away society. Lack of planning. Lack of caring. Lack of common sense. Take your pick any/all.

RedInnocent69 · Answer

You mean, like, what’s driving it down? There are less people getting married, but also a lot less getting divorced. It’s been going down for more than 25 years.

ThaMaskedMarvel · Answer

Marry a dude, file for divorce, get his money. There ya go.

DextroShade · Answer

Feminism, social media, and the corrupt family court system.

DaBiggestBird · Answer

The utter lack of any moral high ground. Basically everyone sucks and they don’t know how to fix it

OtterMan68 · Answer

divorce rate has been decreasing over the years as has the marriage rate

notwoke · Answer

upsides of marriage in the USA for men: 1. Nothing

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

People are selfish and annoying to deal with.

Anonymous · Answer

I have no idea because everyone I know are married or getting married.

mayurr · Answer

Because divorce is an easy way for woman to get property of a man. It's a business nowadays.

Awomanof · Answer

Most people look for sexuality not communication

jahaims · Answer

Poor cultural and societal values

LazerBean · Answer

The moral degeneracy of society

CrabCakes11 · Answer

people getting divorced

paledreams · Answer

Decline in just about all aspects of whatever

Anonymous · Answer

$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$

jamesgoldman · Answer

No idea but it's driving my business

Tim2nice · Answer

Monogamy. It’s unnatural and forced upon us

ChinaGrove · Answer

Sex and money.

DreamLife7 · Answer

I don't know ask them

MrFrenchFry · Answer

Feminism. Next

PatKirby · Answer

Feminism.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

The internet

In_Trance · Answer

Shitty marriages

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