Would sending him a letter and his favorite food be a good idea?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend and I had huge fight, he felt unappreciated and taken for granted by me so he’s asked for some distance. He said he’s okay with texting but he also needs some space. I’ve given him space and haven’t texted him to let him cool down.

But back then when he’s asked for space before, he used to say that he wanted me to reach out first. So I’ve been thinking to give him the entire 24 hours alone, then I’ll send him a care package with his favorite food the next day. I won’t text him, I‘ll just write him a letter acknowledging my mistakes and my commitment to make it up to him. I feel like there’s no pressure to respond back if it was a hand written letter. What do you think?

Yes

Wait it out some more

Bad idea

Updates

6 mo

Thanks for the voted everyone! I did end up sending him the care package and letter, he then finally texted me to let me know that he really appreciated the gesture. He’s coming over so we can talk heart to heart and work on reconciliation!

[Anonymous]

My advice is to fix yourself if you know this was all you. The issue w most women is that they do what you’re doing, they try to make their man happy by cooking him dinner or having sex w him or whatever else she may do to manipulate him. You’re sending him his favorite snacks, which is somewhat a form of manipulation. A lot of women don’t actually deal w what the real issue is. Which may be her attitude. All she’s concerned about is that he’s mad, how can I make him happy w out taking responsibility for my actions by fixing myself so I don’t do this again. It’s a nice gesture, especially if you admit, still somewhat manipulative. But to include a letter admitting it was your fault is a good start, but you need to fix that part of your personality.

[Asker]

I am. I’ve been going to therapy and working behind the scenes to change for the better. But I still also have to make amends with him while I do my homework.

[Opinion Owner]

You make amends by fixing it. You sound. As though you’ve been going to therapy for quite some time.

[Orion84]

Speaking as a guy, that actually sounds like a really nice gesture, and if anyone did that for me after a fight, I would really appreciate it.

It shows thoughtfulness and consideration, while also demonstrating that some work went into it, via the handwritten letter (in lieu of a text).

Hopefully he appreciates it, too.

[Asker]

I hope so too. I feel like sending him a text would put too much pressure on him to respond back so I feel like the letter would be the way to go. I also hope that he will see my genuine effort and remorse…

[Nikki1989]

You can't get any more distant than texting. You might as well end it now.

[Asker]

Well it was only for 3 days barely and I wanted to respect his need for space. But we’re back on track now!

[exitseven]

that would be a nice gesture. just do not call him and ask if he got the package.

[Asker]

Good to know! He seemed to appreciate it as well and I did not call him, I wanted to leave the ball in his court and let him reach out first whenver he’s ready (I also wrote this in the letter).

[exitseven]

good job, gool luck,