Why does it appear easier for a man to accept a break up vs women? Men usually move on while most women need to "heal" & stalk the mans new lover?

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Personally, I don't need to "heal" or "cry" about it like most women here have mentioned. I feel if it didn't work, you just move on. Crying is a waste of time. It won't make the person come back, and if it did, why would you even want someone to take you back out of pity? So I don't understand why most women go into stalking, comparing themselves to his new woman, and then arguing. What's the point?

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Most men understand that they can't MAKE a woman want to be with him, and if she doesn't want to be with him, there will be zero return on any further investments into her.

The reason it's difficult for women is because women get lots of benefits from being in a relationship with a man - benefits most do not appreciate or respect until she loses them. Most men do lots of things for their women and don't bring it up or expect to get any attention for it, so these things are often invisible to the woman until he's gone and she realizes she is on her own and has to figure it out.

Many women think they can end the relationship but still keep their access to the benefits, whether that's his time, attention, money, or labor, while they also pursue those things from someone else too (usually the someone else doesn't feel nearly as strong about her as she thinks), but most men have been used that way before and have learned that it's a losing situation, so they make a clean break instead.

That man might be really hurt on the inside, but it is NOT to his benefit to show that to her, or to dwell on her. Once she decides she's done, he is ACTUALLY going to be done with her.

Yes, there are some weak men who will continue to simp, but you don't respect those men, and neither does anyone else.

Sam1133 · Accepted Answer

I totally agree with you why need to cry? Come on move on cutie life not ends here unnecessary create drama over breakup like a big deal come on. Lol

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I don’t know how much truth there’s to this, but I’ve heard men’s and women’s brains work completely different when it comes to emotions/focus/thinking. Basically, the two brain halves work together in women and feelings and logical thinking gets mixed together. Therefor feelings affect women no matter what they do and if they’re very upset it can be hard for us to really put that to the side for the moment and focus on other things. In men the brain halves work more separately. One part of the brain is much more dominant at any specific time, so when upset they can more easily put that to the side in the moment while they let the other parts of their brain work. They can focus, for example at work, and not think or feel as much even during heartbreak. But when they allow the part of their brain responsible for emotions to take over, maybe at home when they’re alone at night, they feel very intensely and and don’t think of anything else. They have an easier time to switch between these modes though. Again, I don’t know how true this is. Just something I’ve heard somewhere.

BeachBreak420 · Accepted Answer

Cause some think how dare you break up with me. I break up with mentalty.

Summeroflove · Answer

Everyone needs time to heal a breakup is painful. However creepy behavior isn’t okay especially people who have a extreme sense of entitlement and feel as if he/she has a right to stalk not only their ex but their new partner.

If you can simply “move on” without hurting. It shows you never really loved the person. That’s the other extreme. It depends how long you been together. But if I was with someone for a year or longer and broke up. Yeah…. It would hurt. Doesn’t mean I would stalk someone

Chayce · Answer

Both men and women are capable of disassociating right away and moving, and the inverse, being stuck on their ex. It probably appears that men move on faster because while understandable and justified, it's not a good look for a man to be crying his eyes out over his ex.

Sun_Kim-Ai · Answer

It appears easier, but in many cases it's actually not.  Being with other women helps about not thinking about her, but it doesn't always work.

Berethor · Answer

Because women tend to be more monogamous than men, those who don't tend to be hos.

SotiCoto · Answer

Self-control is a social expectation for men. Others think less of men if they don't control themselves, and that has further ramifications for the way their life goes.
Women, meanwhile, are expected to get all weepy and emotional over things. If anything they garner more criticism if they do manage to control themselves... so I suspect most never even try. Like they don't even see self-control as something desirable... at least for themselves.

Anonymous · Answer

Women can't handle rejection. Even if we don't like the guy and are cheating on him intending to leave for another man, we like to be the ones doing the dumping

fonduegirl · Answer

They don't move on either.

They just cover it up by sleeping around, aka reclaiming their manhood and freedom. The hurt is still there.

It's not an achievement, in my opinion, to not cry and instead become some kind of player. Just know, this guy will not be handsome, fit and/or wealthy forever. Someday he would have to deal with that broken heart.

Zylos · Answer

That is not my experience. Women have more options than men, so it's easier for them to move on.

exitseven · Answer

I used to just take it and push it way down into some dark corner of my mind, hoping it would never see the light of day again. Sometimes it would refuse to stay buried.

Anonymous · Answer

I never had a break up, but on the other hand, I never had relationship either.  If I were in a relationship, it wouldn't be easy for me to accept break up.

msc545 · Answer

I can typically feel relieved and truly mean it, as things are usually quite bad before this happens.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

It seems so because women talk to their girlfriends about relationships, while even on July 27,2025, most men are too basically caveman to bring up the subject with the lads.

dustybiker2 · Answer

Men hide their pain Woman hide how horny they are

Tracy2025 · Answer

Not all women "cry", and not all men move on quickly.

Jackblue · Answer

Men at least initially are more confident they will find someone better, women seem to have trouble believing that. Often times they both find that it is easier for her to find a better lover.

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

Men just hide it better

Pohjolan · Answer

I think its more men having been socially conditioned not to show weakness.

qwerty2469 · Answer

Because if a man breaks up with a woman he has exhausted all other options.

dudeinohio · Answer

Men think. logically. women think emotionally.

beenherebefore · Answer

Women tend to be more emotional than men.

Anonymous · Answer

Get off your fake pink account dude

jahaims · Answer

You aren't mentally well if you are stalking

Babygirl_S · Answer

They live to satisfy their dicks

WonderingManII · Answer

I don't know anything about this.

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