My boyfriend just texted me that he feels this relationship is slowly dying?

[Anonymous]

I'm feeling angry with him saying that. I told him I have been going through a lot, he says to stop making it about myself but like I was living in a hotel for 2 months because my place got flooded, barely this week I moved back in and had to unpack everything and settled in, it was exhausting but my sis came over to help and now my mom is in the hospital for renal failure and needs permanent dialysis. So why is being such a jerk about our relationship. It's hard to balance having fun with him at the moment, it is starting to feel like he only wants me when things are going good but not when I'm going through tough times. Anyone going through or has gone through something similar..

[Anonymous]

So what’re you going to do? Wait around for the other shoe to drop because you love him more than you love yourself and don’t want to break up? You can do a lot better for yourself than letting this guy decide whether you’re worth it or not. I’d make the choice for him and pull the plug first.

[Asker]

I don’t want to break up but it’s slowly getting there for me. He has two kids and works night shift. I’m always trying to balance us spending time together but he works nights and it’s tough seeing each other but right now he is being so selfish by saying that to me as I’m going through the worse

[jazzy34]

Considering the other things going on in your life, I’d focus on that, not him. I’m sorry he said that, but that shows he doesn’t care about what’s going on in your life right now. You don’t need a partner like that.

[Asker]

That’s what it feels like

[StevenMcGarrett]

That sucks. He should be there for you. If he can't do job, then find someone that can. He should have helped you move too.

[Twalli]

It sounds like you haven't been dating that long or that he's not ready for a relationship.

[StephanieChick111]

Well you have two choices. You can get a counselor and work on it with him. Or you can take the hint and cut your losses and find someone better. Good luck.

[Asker]

It's like I'm going through the worse and he texts me that. Like how can I cater to him when I'm not doing good. He says we rarely see each other and obviously he works nights so it has been difficult to spend time. We have opposite schedules

[StephanieChick111]

Yeah, he should support you back. What do you feel about the relationship? Do you feel it is slowly dying?

[Asker]

No not at all not on my end. I spent time with him on Saturday because I’ve been going to see my mom at the hospital any other day and I’m also exhausted from moving all my stuff back and organizing everything for when she comes back so for him to tell me that. He said he didn’t mean to make me feel upset and that he was sharing what he feels but to me it sounded worse and sounded selfish of him

[StephanieChick111]

Hmm, well I think he is hinting that he wants to break up. Be careful.

[slatyb]

Did he blame you for it? He feels what he feels.

[Asker]

No he was just sharing what he was feeling he said and now is saying he doesn’t want ti share anything anymore about how he feels