My boyfriend is saying that he loves me less than before and wants to take things slow. I am afraid that our relationship will fade away. What should I do?

[sweety0504]

I got committed 3 months back. I have known my boyfriend for 4 months and within a month he proposed me. He said that he wants to marry me & I am the perfect girl for him and he can't live without me. I know this sounds lame bt I believed him. We got committed. Both of them are short tempered persons so we have quarreled more than few times till this time. We went away for a weekend last month and there also we had misunderstanding. But we had sex. But after that weekend he started behaving very formally.. He stopped telling me that he loves me & stopped calling me sweety or some other nicknames with which he used to call me.. Then last week when I asked him about his formal behavior, he told me that he doesn't love me like before and added that he loves me less than before and due to my attitude problem and short temper he started having doubts whether I am the right person for him. I got so disturbed by this answer & tried to convince him in every ways.. But he is having the same answer as before. He says he lost that love feeling and when that feeling returns he will behave with me like before.. he didn't meet me after that weekend till 2 days before we went out for dinner, there also he was pretending like he met me first time and didn't show any love at least by hugging me. Last night as usual I told him that I love him but he said me to stop telling me that love word & asked me to pretend that I am just dating a guy and not loving that guy & said that till his feelings come along we both can see each other bt should not talk about love or sex & also he won't hug or kiss me. I am bothered by his selfish behavior bt couldn't argue or fight with him cos he would say that i am having attitude problem. I asked him directly whether he wants to leave me. He denied that & said he wants to take things slow. Bt i am frustrated. Am i doll to him? I also have feelings know. I couldn't stop thinking about all these. What should I do? Should I leave him or take things slow as he wants?

[melanieeeB]

oke I didn't read the whole thing, but just the few things from the start with the after 1 month he proposed? like really? how stupid!
sorry to say but I'm sure he just used you and also You seem to me really naive, really sorry but yeah.
oke now I read the whole thing, all the shit he told you about your attitude is probably a lie, I bet that he wasn't satisfied with the sex, because he changed after this weekend and after the doesn't want to talk about love and sex. Yeah I believe it's so obvious. Don't take it personally, i'm sure he just had a sick fantasy and he couldn't get that
Move on and don't be so naive! it will destroy your life

[zeikar]

guys want sex and girls wants security... maybe he only want sex from you nd didn't want to give security to you for all his life.. maybe he lied you... give him some time... when he again need something from you,, he will again call you sweety, sweety..

[vincjh]

Sounds like he just wanted to have sex with you decided to say what it took. Sorry to say that my dear :/ and once he got it he was done with you.

[bunanababa]

dump him. ain't got time for games

[ren72]

leave him, he just want to be free. sorry