Would You Rather Stalk Your Ex Or Sleep Around After Breakup?

[fonduegirl]

allow me to stereotype a little here. some people, mostly men and a few women, get rebound to prove to themselves they're still desirable, the world still wants them.

on the other hand, mostly women and a few men, try to stalk the ex on Instagram and such, to check their new partners, because for some even that is a coping mechanism.

which one are you?

I'd say I'm neither, I usually double down on my alone time, exploring new books and such, yk. sometimes I talk to my friends about the remainders of my feelings

[Purpleronnie]

I’ve have a fair few relationships , not because I’m codependent or in any way need someone but because I wanted special someone to share with. When those relationships ended , I went back to re-investing in me , with some introspection and to some extent emotional healing. I never valued sleeping around with a lot of women even though comparative to many guys In my social group I have , that wasn’t the focus , It just happened. Additionally , I was the one in every previous relationship bar one to end it so stalking could never really have been a thing even though it’s really not me anyway. I have my all in every relationship so when it ended there was nothing left.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

"which one are you?"

Since I have felt this urge to be desired again, since I have felt this urge to check her activity on social media, then, by your description, I am most men, most women, few men and few women.

And I have been you, the so called neither, as well. So I am everything you ever knew?

Or is there a 4th, 5th, 6th, Nth profile you believe I can incarnate as well? 😏

[Simslover92]

Neither. Although I can't really speak too much on the healing without my ex because I'm still in contact with him at the moment (though that's about to be cut off), I would never stalk him nor would I sleep around after a breakup. Both sounds very unhealthy. But so is still keeping in contact which I am fully aware of and am going to put an end to it.

[jazzy34]

Neither option is healthy or helpful. Be okay with being single for a while and move on.

[Kaneki05]

I stalk, and when there new boyfriend leaves them and they become depressed stop taking care of themselves I think 'Yeah thought so.' and if they get a new partner who lasts I think 'Good on you, guess I was shit sorry.'

[fonduegirl]

Stalking is in your blood.

[lorenzomichael]

I would rather just ignore her altogether, but be nice and I wouldn’t just go and bang someone I just happened to meet that’s to easy and besides, I have too much respect for myself. I also hope my ex was a lot more to me than just a piece of ass for me to use my bed for a playground right away.

[OneViewpoint]

No, stalking is not an option. That's a mental health issue. And I can't say I consciously decide to try to get laid like some sort of quest. I just go back to meeting people and seeing what develops. Reset. Start over.

[BadApple69]

I don’t stalk… you don’t want to be with me or me with you…. That’s good enough for me bye bye.
As for rebounding…. Yes as fast as humanly possible lol.

[UmarCGA]

I dont need coping mechanism I would be cometely fine knowing she was never mine.. Probably sleep around not that much or due to depression (I won't have one) for me that would be freeing

[trumpetplayerforlife]

I used to find men to take me out and spoil me friends with benefits type of thing

[tulgablake]

None just try to leave and let everything go

[ChicoFromThe305]

I like your ability to avoid adding more sane options, like properly moving on by working on themselves. 😂

[Alex-Snow]

I would never stalk her. What is done is done. I would and have slept around and had some fun. HBU?

[Tom567456]

I'm sorry, but I think stalking is rather pathetic. I try not to judge. Stalkers need therapy. I understand obsession, but that's unhealthy.

[qwerty2469]

Id rather move on and not base my life decisions on them in any way

[EmmaMary]

@anon1903

Neither... Thank you.

[katiesmuff]

I never had an ex that meant that much to me.

[Charliefretz329]

Neither, healing is required

[WhitneySnow]

I would do neither. I’m more like you.

[Danny_dan92]

I rather do neither of those two

[dudeinohio]

Id get into a new relationship

[Wise4myage]

Id rather sleep around, stalking is for losers.

[jahaims]

I'm emotionally healthy so neither

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

Don't care focus on yourself 😂god is best planner

[MasterKS]

Sleep around is easy option.

[On_cloud_wine]

Neither.

[UniquelyBasic]

Why not both? 🤗

[CarolinaCutie5]

None

[ItsAshh2009]

Neither