What would you do if your partner wants a separation but you are stuck dealing with everything?

[dwreborn]

She wanted the separation which I dont but it could help both figure stuff out but she has left me to pack up everything and take it to my new place even her stuff while she's out doing whatever and I am an emotional mess just going through this stuff am I selfish for feeling this way what do I say to her?

[HollyK21]

Why isn’t it an option to only pack up you and your daughters things and leave hers behind?

[dwreborn]

It is an option but I didn't want it to come to that but basically what I've decided that my shit and me are out tomorrow and my daughter is going this weekend so thats it

[HollyK21]

Honestly the audacity of her wanting you to pack her stuff in the first place is crazy! Sounds like you’re making the best choice, sorry you have to go through it in the first place.

[dwreborn]

We have been great for 22 out of 25 years and I can't trust her anymore it sucks

[dwreborn]

Iam gone out of there her stuff is still there though she came home after being gone for 2 days and I was gone she was pissed I took off without telling her

[HollyK21]

Wow, good on you! Let her be pissed, she can angrily pack her own shit lol you made the right choice from the sounds of it.

[dwreborn]

Ya she is gonna start doing it tomorrow afternoon we will see

[Anonymous]

Communicate apologise for whatever u did and prove to her she can trust u again

[Anonymous]

get rid of whatever semblance of feminism is in your soul and kick her out instead

[Anonymous]

Don’t do it

[dwreborn]

Dont do what I've got to get the fuck out of here this is actually going on as we speak she was supposed to be here at 730 pm now its 11 pm i know she is out doing coke just pisses me off

[Opinion Owner]

Make her do the work

[dwreborn]

I wish I could even worse my daughters stuff needs to go and she is putting her off too

[Opinion Owner]

I see. You need a good lawyer.

[dwreborn]

Ya guess I am going to have to

[Opinion Owner]

Good luck

[dwreborn]

won't do any good 50/50 with our kid and thats it no selling anything whats hers is hers and mine is mine nothing of any value to sell just throwing away 25 years and she won't divorce she is just doing everything possible to make it so I leave her

[Opinion Owner]

Probe she’s a Coke addict and you can get custody

[Opinion Owner]

Prove

[dwreborn]

We have both had our problems with addiction this fucking state but I haven't done anything but smoke my weed for couple years now and she hasn't stopped doing coke but everything else she has but I couldn't do that to her and my daughter also wouldn't take her mother away

[Opinion Owner]

I understand. Sounds like you still care about her. Good luck. I have to go for tonight.

[dwreborn]

Thanks for listening

[Opinion Owner]

You’re welcome