What would you do if your spouse decided to break up with you and not keep going in the relationship anymore?

[melnc]

No cheating or seeing someone else... they just don't want the relationship... how would you react?

[TenderFantasy]

I've had that happen, but not with a divorce but a break up. It hurt because it's essentially a personal rejection. Saying you're not good enough to date or to marry, or have a family with. It's hard not to take the rejection personally, even though, it may, or may not, really have anything to do with you. It could be them going through stuff, but still, you're only HALF (50%) of the equation so you can only pretty much have 50% say in what goes on in the relationship. I read somewhere a long time ago that it takes two to have a relationship, but only one to break it off.

You also have a feeling of disappointment because those goals and dreams you guys had and were building together are now trashed. No more with that person (unless it was an on and off relationship, in that case, that's not really too healthy? I don't really know, but you get my point).

Also, divorces nowadays are rather common just because it's less looked down upon. Especially in America, (U. S. and Canda), Individualism is a real goal for a lot of people. Being selfish and only looking out for oneself. Nevermind what your spouse, kids (baiscally family) wants.

[D_Bone_Steak]

I've planned for this... I haven't worked for over 20 years on purpose for this. I'm the main child caretaker, I'm the dependent... you might know where I'm going with this, but MENSA membership is missing out on my membership.

See... I watched my mother do it to three men but she was absolutely intolerable even to us kids. At least my children love me more than her... everybody does even though I love Trump. I got big muscles and can do what I want.

First I'd get my child support payments, the kid is mine, and I expect my alimony... bitches.

I took your system set upon me to be shit upon and I went there shit on it and then wiped my ass with your declarations. I'm not to be trifled with or you'll find yourself waking up in a ditch with a carrot shoved in your ass. Bitch, you pulled me into this relationship and now you get what you get when you decide to pull out. Should of just went ahead and cheated...

Yeah bro... if woman fell out of love with me long enough to actually leave... she has a world of a shit show to deal with afterward. I could've been doing twice as much hookers and cocaine, but I pulled myself up by my bootstraps and did the woman's job while she worked and drank a lot and fucked a lot of hookers. I'd be sending her pictures of me fucking other girls for years... all for it only to stop because I got bored.

I swing the dick hard... if I want a new car... best believe she's going to buy it for me.

I swing the dick hard... it will leave a mushroom print across her face.

Lets' be real tho bruah... no chick would leave me... I leave them. And I'll be an asshole about it. I will shit, not wipe, crab walk to her pillowcase, turn her pillowcase inside out and wipe, then delicately put it back upon the pillow and slightly fluff it. I made her bed... she shall lye in it.

[McKellar]

Not a spouse, but my ex-fiancée.

I was going through a lot of issues. Some of them were my fault, but the rest were not my fault at all, but I still had to deal with them. I was trying to deal with these situations as the best I was able to do, these were weighing her down, she couldn't deal with it anymore and she broke it off from me like cold turkey.

Out of all of the romantic relationships I've been involved in,... this one terribly impacted me the most. I was an emotional wreck, I was already doing some dumb things which I shouldn't have been doing, but unfortunately I didn't care anymore.

Unfortunately this great, negative impact of the break up had changed me into a different kind of person that I don't like, but unfortunately I'm stuck with this type of change.

[DreamCrescent]

what’s it made you?

[IslaTheWitch]

I would try to understand his motivations. But if he simply doesn't want the relationship anymore and there is nothing more we can do to make it work... I would let him go...

We can't force people to stay with us, it must be their decision.

[KrakenAttackin]

@IslaTheWitch. Yes, this is spot on.

[Paris13]

Sad.. Especially with Many of The Dates and Mates, I Do The Breakups. lolxxoo

[Valdemort]

Honestly, isn't that the most respectful way to end a relationship?
If they realise I am not who they want to spend the rest of their life with and decide to have a conversation about it with me, without there being anyone else, not a grudge, no unspoken regrets or issues, simply the loss of feelings... the most respectful and honestly the only suitable thing to do is to end things, isn't it?


Or am I plane stupid?

[Valdemort]

- plain.

Jesus. Proving my point 😂💀

[Valdemort]

I'd probably cry about it. Reminiscing the past. Be grateful for the memories we made and then accept that things will never be the same.

[DreamCrescent]

truth, chica

[Alwayreckles93]

I've been there before out of no where like cold turkey he decided to break up with me for no reason no cheating was not involve he simply told me he wasn't bonding with me and he just wasn't connecting with me. Now he is married with kids and one on the way. You know it's weird and crazy how they can just forget about their ex and just move on start a family. Oh well I needed to accept that I am history to him.

[Vesuvius87]

Honestly I don't care too much if a boyfriend wants to break up with me. If it's someone I'm just dating and there is no bigger commitment so what.

I'll be glad that at least he's not wasting more minutes of my time. I have no time to be dwelling on ''omg why did my boyfriend left me, omg, why''.

I would be sad if it was something major such as a fiance leaving me the day before the wedding... then that makes more sense to be upset about. Just a boyfriend? Nope.

[kclark30]

It’s really hard, but sometimes a relationship changes over time. You gotta move on and the worst thing you can do is try to convince them to stay. If they don’t want you, it’s their loss!

[msc545]

I don't think you can realistically fix this sort of thing. More likely than not, the other person has already found somebody else and is simply not telling you the whole story. It doesn't matter. They are going to do what they're going to do. I don't think there would be any motivation on my part to try to fix it or to take them back later on. I would never trust that person again. That would be the end of it. I would be very sad and probably cry but I would get over it.

[PeachyPie93]

I would let them go. I would be sad and if I still loved them I would cut them out of my life because no way could I be friends with someone I love.

[sheikalana]

If you're married and willing to work things out you should do everything to save the relationship. It's very possible to rekindle the love and passion.

[Subflics]

As a married couple, I feel I would be entitled to know why. If they don't tell you know, then it must be bad and I wouldn't trust her anymore anyways after that so yes I'd walk away too. There's a lot of people it's not hard to find someone else

[Anonymous]

I'd be disappointed that they don't have the longevity and commitment. It would feel like a failed investment. But if they truly can't find a way to make it work with you, maybe it's for the best. Maybe you can find someone more compatible.

[TenderFantasy]

Agreed.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Sucks, sure, but whatever, that's life. I'd go find someone else.

[Sour-rose]

"Fine, go to hell."

It hurt but time keeps moving.

[TacosRAwesome]

I'd respect it. It's better than what my exes did which is bitch and whine about how much I'm a horrible partner and refuse to break up.

[LaurenM1997]

Accept it and move on but I think I’d also cry too

[itsclearlynicholas]

I'd probably just enjoy the memories and yet at the same time, move on as easily as apple pie. You know,

[TenderFantasy]

I think the sooner you move on, the less you liked the person.

[itsclearlynicholas]

I'd say for me no however each to their own. Some people are just find it easier to move on, others not, and others learn from one bad experience and learn never to be caught up again you know in, loved up doves aka being infatuated.

[itsclearlynicholas]

Which is never healthy. So I love to move on easily and growth has been my learning in my adult life 🧬👍

[KittygosMeoWW]

I’d move on and wish them the best, they handled it respectfully and let me know so I didn’t waste time.

[Lonelydudewantsagirl]

Usually if someone suddenly ends a relationship with a weak explanation for it, it’s because there is another person and they don’t want to admit it.

[Nikki1989]

It would be a total shock to hear that from my husband.

[Paul09]

Well my last relationship broke my heart. And I've been single since. Just lived my life solo. Got use to it. With time it passes.

[Anonymous]

Call my lawyer and get the prenuptial agreement out of the files.