What to do when you don't want to break up cause you don't want someone else but you want your partner to just show a bit more care?

[Anonymous]

I can't see myself with anyone else but my partner seems to be losing interest or not trying anymore, Any suggestions?

[StarWarGirl]

You can't force anyone to act certain way or to show interest. Even if you do it would be temporary and for short term or maybe fake what can be seen and felt as so. Only thing you can is compromise and accept it that way if you want to stay with him only. It's possible maybe in next 30-40 years some miracles happens or something change what makes him showing interest in you but also it could be possible it would never happen.

[StarWarGirl]

But sure you can try. You can try through conversation or fights or manipulative tricks or whatever. You can absolutely try to make him intrested. Good luck if it works for you.

[Asker]

Does that talk always lead to an argument though?

So you think change may never be possible?

[StarWarGirl]

No. If he is understanding if this relationship matters for him too. If he also is interested to continue your relationship then the talk always results good. But if he is not interested in keeping relationship then this talk become one kind of excuse to fight and make reason. But first you can casually little softly you can keep your point and see his reaction. And then you decide yourself that where the talk would be leading can you talk seriously about it more deeply or not

[Asker]

So if it's causes fights and arguments then his not interested anymore?

[StarWarGirl]

Conversation is actually the key to solve any problem and to keep relationship healthy. If both partners are open to listen express and rectify their mistakes that relationship grow always healthier and longer

[Asker]

So if his not open to it and says I'm seeing things?

[StarWarGirl]

Yes if he fights then MAYBE... He is not interested in keeping this relationship. It's also possible that he is mature but more chance he isn't interested and doesn't care that this relationship dies or whatever

[Asker]

Mature meaning?

[StarWarGirl]

If he isn't interested and telling you that you are wrong to feel this way then that's gaslighting. He simply wants to keep you alongside you because you are good choice and safer for him. But he doesn't love you. But he is selfish

[StarWarGirl]

Mature means not childish. Acting responsibly.

[Asker]

Lol sucks hearing out loud what I'm thinking , I really appreciate your opinion though

[StarWarGirl]

I know I can understand. It's painful but it's bitter truth what to do. Stay strong and you decide whatever you want. It's only you to choose what and how you want your life. We are no one to say you should stay or you should breakup. It's you only whi has to live your life and each choice has it's own good and bad. Take care of yourself.

[Asker]

Thank you , appreciate it 💕

[StarWarGirl]

Sorry in my 4th reply i ment immature* not mature. I just saw. I ment if he fight on this means he is immature and childish.

[Asker]

Lol all good yeah I get it

[Anonymous]

Maybe your relationship has ran its course and its time to move on.

[Asker]

Why?

[Opinion Owner]

Ask him?

[Asker]

Well you said it so I'm Asking you why you said iy

[Opinion Owner]

I really don't know.

[Asker]

Okayy