How do you react when someone breaks up with you and it’s not mutual?
It was mutual and I initiated it. But if it wasn't mutual I would want to know why and asked questions but I wouldn't beg him. At the end of the day I believe if two people are meant to be together they will always try. They will put that effort in. He doesn't deserve me if he doesn't want me anymore.
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You respect their decision and move on knowing someday someone will want to be in your life forever, this person doesn’t so it’s not worth being very sad over
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I'm sad for a while... then I move on
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Before I make any kind of a relationship commitment with a girl, I sit her down and have a conversation, and one of the things I discuss is that she can leave the relationship at any time. I may ask her to reconsider, or take a day to think over her decision, but if she wants to leave, she can go and I'm not going to try to stop her, because I respect her as a person. HOWEVER... that "exit door" only works one way, and once she walks out that door, there's no path back inside - EVER. I do not accept or tolerate threats or ultimatums and I certainly don't play the game of "I'm going to break up with you anytime something makes me upset, but we can get back together once I calm down."
If you want to go, then go, but that's it. It's over, forever, period. There's no point in me investing my time and effort into someone who doesn't want to be with me, and, while I might be sad or disappointed (and I certainly have been at times!), there's nothing for me to gain trying to chase her down and convince her to change her mind, much less to stalk her or try to "win her back." She's an adult, and these are adult decisions, and she's got to live with the consequences just as I do.
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It depends on how they did it. If she just straight up vanishes like a ghost, in real life and online, that's the most painful. Because there are no answers. Especially if her own family has no idea!
If she becomes a total bitch out of nowhere, that hurts because it's confusing. How could she do a complete 180 for no reason?
But then there's those who've known you for only a month, state you're not dating, then out of nowhere make demands of you as if the two of you were, and she clearly won't compromise or even be civil. She just wants to be in control, no matter what. You remind her that you're not dating, and that it wouldn't even be fair to treat her boyfriend that way, but treating you that way is beyond the pale. She then tries to twist it like she's the "victim"!
I used to give lots of second chances to such girls, hoping kindness would allow them to see the error of their ways. Far too often, they only got bolder and more abusive. Now, I block them, and archive the chat. And I look over my shoulder in case they come back. Not to reconcile, but to prepare myself for whatever trouble they're likely about to cause! Once she's emotionally battered me to the point I'd block her, I begin seeing her as an enemy. Because I discovered way back in 2007 that once her actions betray that she was secretly the enemy the entire time, she will use any olive branch you throw in her direction to fasten arrows to shoot you with. And won't stop until the quiver is empty!
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Well, when my ex broke up with me over text I reacted poorly. I got up from my desk and called her which went to voicemail and said not to do it like thus and said I wanted to talk face to face and see if we can work it out.
She was already about three days checked out by that point. Called me back, didn't even talk for 1 minute. Swift kick in the gut.
Remember being in a funk for a couple of weeks and thinking about everything I did as if I was trying to decipher the Dead Sea Scrolls. Sucked and honestly, I can see similar feeling down the line if it happens again. Pain, hurt, and numbness.
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When I broke up with my ex he didn't accept it, he essentially said no. Which is funny because it's why I was breaking up with him, he was incredibly controlling. I basically told him that he could continue thinking we are together but I'm considering us done and I won't be speaking to him anymore. About I don't know 15-20 min later I received a message from him and he was breaking up with me. (Again very controlling). I honestly just laughed. I don't think I replied if anything I just said okay 👍 and left it at that.
Breaking up doesn't need to be mutual, if someone doesn't want to be romantically involved with you anymore then that's their right, you can't force them to continue. -
Based on the text messages provided, it appears that the other person is not accepting or respecting your feelings and decision. It's important to communicate clearly and openly in a relationship, but ultimately each person has the right to decide whether they want to continue the relationship or not. If the other person is not willing to listen to your feelings and respects your decision, it may be necessary to end the relationship for your own well-being. Remember to take care of yourself and seek support from friends or family if needed.
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If they broke up with me, I intentionally pushed for it whether they realized or not. It was part of the plot.
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I don't care anymore. Whoever doesn't want to be in my life permanently and only wants a temporary relationship (always have one foot out the door any time the going gets tough), they can leave. The minute he leaves it's like we've never known each other ever. You're a ghost right there.
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You say
* "thank you".
* He says "Why are you thanking me?"
* You say " for saving me from investing any more time, effort, thoughts, feelings and dreams in someone who either doesn't recognize or want me, and all the qualities I bring to a relationship. You've done me a favor"First repeat this in your head several times and let it sink in till you truly believe it, because it's true. Then say it as your good bye.
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Back then: What can I do to be better?
Now: Can we fix it or are you willing to work with me to try fix it? If not, then ok. (and yes, I will be sad)
If you ghost me then pop out saying that: Ok then.
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yikes... i'd be scared for my life if someone responded that way. that's some start of a true crime shit
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I cut them from my life, treat them like they never existed. I'm not mean to them, I'm not hateful to them, they just are no longer part of my life so I treat them as such.
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You move on. Break ups aren't usually mutual. For me, if I ever get involved and she breaks up with me, that's it, you only get one shot. I don't play games.
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I have not been there before
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It sucks. I cry and give myself time to recover and then move on.
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Sad and sometimes mourn what might have been.
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I have absolutely no desire to be with someone who is not crazy about me in the best of ways. Goodbye and don't come back!
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Only way to react is to let them go. You can't catch butterflies by chasing them, you have to stand still and let them come to you.
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Look I'm sad, I'll cry but I'm not going to force someone to stay.
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Hey @Pinay_ako, I look at it in the way of them not deserving me as their partner.
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