How to breakup with someone you love?

[Anonymous]

We've been together for a year. I think I love him. But I also know I have to break up with him because he's not a nice person.

He's very abusive and every time he's mad he says the worst possible things one can imagine. He also told me today that I'm a dog for clinging on to him when he has no feelings, no respect and no admiration for me. That was the last point, I can't go any further.

I still love him. Yes, you would probably think I'm a person completely devoid of self esteem, but I'm just not being able to turn my head from the nice things he once said. He said he loved me, wanted me, found me to be the prettiest woman in the Earth etc. But I really want to end this relationship right now.

I have insecurities and I'm a loner with no friends. They make things harder.

Any advices on how to make myself block him?

[Anonymous]

I feel you, I've been in the same position as you. I also had no friends bcs I moved to his hometown, I also had self esteem and insecurity issues (still do lol but much better with it) so I know what you're going through. He is definitely not a nice person and I'm proud of you for realizing that and not justifying his toxic behavior - that's the first step! He is being abusive, praising you and the switching to saying he has no admiration for you the next is just a tactic he uses to keep you attached (your brain now longs for that happier and nicer version of him, he withdraws and then pulls you closer to keep you attached to him).

I think you just need to block him and cut contact cold turkey. Make yourself busy, try new activities to get your mind off of him (you might also end up meeting new friends that way). You'll soon realize that you are much better off without him and that you deserve better, your mental health takes precedence over this relationship.